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[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 131 points 7 months ago (1 children)

So a murderer gets replies and I couldn't even get a match before I gave up, sounds about right lmao

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.world 105 points 7 months ago (4 children)

Step 1: be attractive

Step 2: don't be unattractive

[–] SuddenDownpour@sh.itjust.works 22 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Unironically this. Tinder is built in such a way that it makes appearance count far more than it does in almost any other environment. Add to that that there's a huge disproportion between male and female users. For most people, Tinder is just a miserable experience.

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.world 9 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I was married before any of these apps became available, so I've never experienced them. How do people deal with the Instagram filter effect? I'm assuming everyone is using every filter they can for their profile pictures. So what happens when you actually meet someone in real life without all those filters? Does everyone just flee in terror at the arrival of their date?

[–] Grumpy@sh.itjust.works 15 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Yes. That's pretty much what I would do. Flee.

It's a giant waste of time for everyone. It's honestly horrible and I wish there was a way to seriously penalize people who do that. I'd say >80% of the girls use filter effect. I can't tell guys since I don't look at guy profiles. Though, guys would have better effect taking a pic in front of a random Porsche parked on the street and lie about their height than using filters.

You can tell people are using filters most of the time once you've seen enough. Lot of them are pretty obvious. And some of them are completely obvious as it still has the filter's name literally on the photo.

I would absolutely prefer to match on below avg girl with real face than hot girl with fake filter face. With real photos, I know what I'm getting into, and found them to be much more down to earth as well.

[–] kameecoding@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

It's not just the filters, how photogenic you are also has a huge effect there can be a massive difference between what you see on the tinder pics and what's in real life and it goes both ways, as in it can be much better but also much worse

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[–] teft@lemmy.world 12 points 7 months ago

Example A:

Jeremy Meeks aka That Hot Mugshot Guy

[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 11 points 7 months ago (5 children)

That is indeed the rule.

I couldn't even get conventionally unattractive people to respond lol

I mean could I be the problem? Sure, I hate myself more than any person that exists or ever has existed lol

[–] Jax@sh.itjust.works 11 points 7 months ago (6 children)

It is more nuanced.

I'm what you would consider handsome, until you take a picture of me. Then I look just fucked, I don't know what it is about my face but it has to be in motion.

You might just be better in person. Don't know, but I think it's all about perspective. No one will like you if you can't find a way to like yourself.

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[–] nonfuinoncuro@lemm.ee 10 points 7 months ago

Ugly people like hot people too.

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Sure, I hate myself more than any person that exists or ever has existed lol

This generally isn't something you'd open with when seeking a date, but you might attract some hawt goth chicks, so it'll possibly pay off.

[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 9 points 7 months ago (3 children)

Lol I'm only open about that kind of stuff when I'm sorta anonymous like on here. I like to think I have some charm in person or when sending messages.

I don't get it though, don't women love the intro message of "ayyy bb nice tits, let's make fuck!" It never seems to work... :P

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[–] PunnyName@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Pshh. You can't hate yourself as much as I hate myself. Get in line. And it's BEHIND ME.

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[–] FewerWheels@mander.xyz 95 points 7 months ago (8 children)

At the risk of doxing myself, I share a uncommon name with a serial murderer. I'm not a serial murderer. So if you googled me, you can ignore that.

[–] AdmiralShat@programming.dev 34 points 7 months ago (4 children)

This is the first thing that came to mind.

One of my female cousins shares a full name with a male pornstar.

[–] fossilesque@mander.xyz 17 points 7 months ago

Rhonda Jeremy

[–] TheBat@lemmy.world 14 points 7 months ago

And you found that out when you were looking for your cousin's porn?

[–] Philokins@lemmynsfw.com 6 points 7 months ago

One of my female cousins shares a full name with a male pornstar.

Alex Adams?

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[–] AlpacaChariot@lemmy.world 18 points 7 months ago

I heard those murders were Wheely bad

[–] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 12 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Don’t change your name, it’s the other guy who sucks.

[–] FewerWheels@mander.xyz 7 points 7 months ago (1 children)

He's dead too, so there's that!

[–] JasonDJ@lemmy.zip 11 points 7 months ago

Did…did you kill him?

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[–] perviouslyiner@lemmy.world 79 points 7 months ago (1 children)

“She had asked: What is he? A friend or an enemy?"

“The alethiometer answered: He is a murderer."

“When she saw the answer, she relaxed at once. He could find food, and show her how to reach Oxford, and those were powers that were useful, but he might still have been untrustworthy or cowardly. A murderer was a worthy companion. She felt as safe with him as she'd done with Iorek Byrnison the armoured bear"

[–] riot@lemmy.world 23 points 7 months ago (3 children)

Oh, man, this really makes me want to re-read the entire series again.

I've recently gotten into audiobooks for the first time in my life. I wonder if there's a quality production of His Dark Materials.

[–] kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world 13 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Just looked it up. There are 6 more books outside the original trilogy (9 in all). I have some reading to do.

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[–] Nefara@lemmy.world 9 points 7 months ago

The audible version was decent, I reread them all on audiobook ahead of the HBO series and wasn't wowed but I wasn't annoyed either. That part in Amber Spyglass still made me cry so that's a kind of endorsement.

[–] xor@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Don't forget the BBC show as well!

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[–] Son_of_dad@lemmy.world 44 points 7 months ago (2 children)

My neighbor just realized he rented out his house to a guy who is under investigation for multiple murders. He found out when cops kept showing up looking to question him and the neighbors called to notify him. I simply googled his tenant's name and all the news stories, criminal records and mug shots came up, so I guess the landlord was just a dumbass.

[–] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 51 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Do you think someone thats "under investigation" deserves to be homeless?

[–] PriorityMotif@lemmy.world 34 points 7 months ago (5 children)

Look up "crime free housing" it's disgusting. It's a way to have landlords evict the entire household based on an arrest. The main website

http://www.crime-free-association.org/about_crime_free.htm

Is an absolute fever dream of nonsense. The guy who pioneered the idea needs to be locked away.

Not only is it a sick idea, it makes no sense. If someone is really dangerous, then they will go to prison after they are tried and convinced. Why should everyone in their home get evicted because of them?

[–] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 14 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Thanks for the info. Its crazy to me how many people regularly completely disregard the concept of "innocent until proven guilty" like its not one of the, if not THE most important thing in our legal system.

[–] PriorityMotif@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

Innocent until proven guilty only applies to the government unless there are specific protections in place. The court of public opinion still exists. Fortunately my state updated their human rights act to prevent this kind of thing in regards to housing.

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[–] ThePantser@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Well if the guy is guilty then the landlord will just have to rent it out again. Also probably be able to keep the security deposit since if the guy goes to prison he violated his lease.

[–] jkrtn@lemmy.ml 10 points 7 months ago (4 children)

In some states, it is illegal to keep the security deposit unless there's been actual damage beyond normal wear-and-tear. The landlord would have to sue and would only be able to claim actual losses. Know your rights.

[–] Anticorp@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Unfortunately the landlord already has the money, so you have to sue to get it back. Even with a win, you may have to sell the debt to a collection agency to see any of it ever again.

[–] jumjummy@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

Yeah, that’s exactly what a smart landlord would do, try and screw over someone who is being investigated for murder. No way that could go wrong.

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[–] snooggums@midwest.social 35 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Good grief Emily, just tell us how the date went.

[–] supercriticalcheese@lemmy.world 11 points 7 months ago (1 children)

it was to die for

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[–] toxicbubble@lemmy.world 29 points 7 months ago (1 children)

points for honesty??

[–] metallic_substance@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

Or calculated deception by telling the absurd truth

[–] Deceptichum@sh.itjust.works 28 points 7 months ago

Murderer or not, I'm not doxxing my full details to a random Tinder account.

[–] Etterra@lemmy.world 21 points 7 months ago

There are people who actively pursue relationships with convicts while they're in prison. Nothing about her post is surprising.

[–] FiniteBanjo@lemmy.today 16 points 7 months ago (1 children)

You passed up a date with NFL MVP holder of the record for the single-season yards-per-game average at 143.1 and a famous actor, OJ Simpson?

[–] TonyTonyChopper@mander.xyz 8 points 7 months ago (1 children)

allegedly*

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[–] user1234@lemmynsfw.com 15 points 7 months ago

Haters gonna date.

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Bottoms on Grindr would be even more interested after learning this. Or just me?

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[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 7 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

My buddy was named Chuck. It seemed just a little juvenile but he said Mr Manson seemed too posh. Yeah, he came up on internet searches too, and people needed to overlook the results.

[–] Gork@lemm.ee 6 points 7 months ago

Some people are into that sort of thing.

I don't understand it, but I'm not about to yuck someone's yum.

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