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Technique to build familiarity. Obviously doesn’t work on everyone but for those it does it’s quite effective
Literally anyone that’s trying to sell you something whether it’s a product, service or ideology is likely to use it if it may increase their chance of success.
If at any point someone keeps using my name in casual conversation with me, I get increadibly uncomfortable and suspicious about their motives.
More often this is not the case at all. Constantly repeated someone's name more often than necessary can be a form of patronizing condescension. This would also make much more sense in OPs context of a Christian apologist condescending to a non believer.
I can see how what you and I described may seem different but it’s in reducing the concept I described to absurdity that derives what you’re talking about. Because it’s true, people use familiarity as an attempt to undermine another. I try to emphasize the good in life but it’s important to recognize that it’s not all roses and rainbows, it’s shit and dirt too.
Aside from it being a sales tactic, it's also just a strategy to memorize people's names. I use it often because I'm trying to be friendly, and I have slight face blindness.
Ironically I work in sales and rarely use names. I am shit with names.
OK, but how are you with sales?
Very good. Just funny it's a common sales tactic that I don't do because I can't remember names
I want to take your course.
I teach new hires to my team on sales tactics. My background is in psychiatry/psychology.
It all boils down to being legit. Be you. Don't be fake. Don't lie.
Based on sales I typically outsell my peers 4:1. When I say a customer is a friend, that means we are friends.
After COVID people are looking for more authentic relationships. The dynamics have changed. They don't want the fake sales person who just takes them to dinner. They want someone that has a real relationship with people, they enjoy spending time with and they trust.
The social isolation has caused people to seek true connections when they spend time with people.
I think you’re just listening to that group a lot? If you go to a sales event or an expo people will say your name and make eye contact. It’s really normal behavior that in a normal situation you don’t need to over analyze but it is being amplified in those situations
Yeah, I mean among friends and coworkers people will definitely call each other by name, and that does still feel weird but not nearly as much. The frequency they use names is just way less and the tone/attitude is different
Sounds like you’d think this was weird in any situation so why are you even asking the question? If you’re going to show respect to someone, you use their name. It’s also a sales tactic to show that you’re paying attention to them and took note of their name when they said it. It makes people more comfortable when you’re personable with them. At least the majority of people. I know everyone’s scared these days to even answer an unknown phone number.
The level of weird it feels to me is pretty different.
When friends do it, and it's so infrequent, it's like a very small feeling, and the majority of the weirdness feeling actually comes from me thinking about how I almost never call people by their name, and I'm probably the weird one, and maybe I should make an effort to do it more.
When I see it being done a lot in one conversation it's a big feeling, and as other people have pointed out, I think a big chunk of the weirdness vibe I get is from the technique being used in a condescending way. And then each time it happens in the same conversation the weird feeling feeds into and amplifies itself, which is what ended up pushing me to ask
It's a sales technique, when someone calls your name often, your brain is fooled to consider the person closer than they really are, making you a little more likely to buy the product/idea they're selling. Not effective on its own, but you can be 100% sure it's not the only technique they're using on you and all the small bits add up eventually.
I’m definitely not one this works on. It just turns me off and makes me a lot less likely to trust you. I read through that BS pretty quickly.
Neuro linguistic programming.
I am an atheist and I often call my friends by their name when I app them. It's just a form of respect for their person imo. I am not the 'hey bro!’ type of guy.
Charlie!
Isa 43:1:
But now thus saith the LORD that created thee, O Jacob, and he that formed thee, O Israel, Fear not: for I have redeemed thee, I have called thee by thy name; thou art mine.
I don't think that's the reason, just an association I had
Keep my name outcha mouf!