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Yeah, I mean among friends and coworkers people will definitely call each other by name, and that does still feel weird but not nearly as much. The frequency they use names is just way less and the tone/attitude is different
Sounds like you’d think this was weird in any situation so why are you even asking the question? If you’re going to show respect to someone, you use their name. It’s also a sales tactic to show that you’re paying attention to them and took note of their name when they said it. It makes people more comfortable when you’re personable with them. At least the majority of people. I know everyone’s scared these days to even answer an unknown phone number.
The level of weird it feels to me is pretty different.
When friends do it, and it's so infrequent, it's like a very small feeling, and the majority of the weirdness feeling actually comes from me thinking about how I almost never call people by their name, and I'm probably the weird one, and maybe I should make an effort to do it more.
When I see it being done a lot in one conversation it's a big feeling, and as other people have pointed out, I think a big chunk of the weirdness vibe I get is from the technique being used in a condescending way. And then each time it happens in the same conversation the weird feeling feeds into and amplifies itself, which is what ended up pushing me to ask