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This may seem kind of stupid but I am kind of stupid, is there a list somewhere of phrases that are stupid or insensitive racially or gender biased? (lemmy.dbzer0.com)

submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I just got up from conversation with a couple of older black men, that I said "well I got to go back to work and start cracking the whip." And it occurred to me then that it was probably a really insensitive stupid thing to say.

Sadly, it hadn't occurred to me until it's already said.

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[–] zaph@sh.itjust.works 33 points 11 months ago (1 children)

That's just how humans are. It's not just about words but actions too. If you get drunk and drive your vehicle and hit and kill someone you go to jail. You didn't intend to kill anyone so why should you be held responsible? Sure intent matters but it's not the only thing that matters.

[–] lolcatnip@reddthat.com 11 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

If you get drunk and drive, you had the intention to do something you knew could result in someone being killed. The intent very much matters in determining responsibility, and it's the reason you'd likely be charged with involuntary manslaughter, but not murder.

[–] NightAuthor@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

Though some people have been convicted of murder in such cases.

[–] zaph@sh.itjust.works 0 points 11 months ago

My point wasn't that intent doesn't matter, it's that a lack of intent doesn't mean you can get off. You didn't intend to kill anyone but still get charged for killing them.