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What do you secretly judge people for? (lemmy.world)

submitted 21 hours ago by NineMileTower@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] Zoidberg@lemm.ee 7 points 7 hours ago (4 children)

People who don't like cats.

I've noticed a correlation between people who don't like cats and having narcissistic or selfish tendencies. Could be just an impression but that's how I feel.

[–] TheChargedCreeper864@lemmy.ml 1 points 4 hours ago

Oh boy, does this also hold for people who don't like any pets?

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 1 points 4 hours ago

I don't like cats, mainly for two reasons:

I am allergic and they just make me feel bad on a physical level
Cats, as any animals, require care, and responsible owners add it to the list of their burdens. It's like constantly having a baby that never grows up - cats can wake you up in the middle of the night, force you to remove feces, etc.

I, however, love people, and am far from being selfish or narcissistic. People around me often find me warm, comforting, and supportive.

[–] halfeatenpotato@lonestarlemmy.mooo.com 3 points 6 hours ago (2 children)

Huh, I kinda feel the opposite. You need (or at least SHOULD) be very attentive to a pup. Dogs, in general, tend to crave/require more attention. Cats are more hands-off, so they often attract the kinda people who want a pet for the sake of having a pet - which tend to be narcissistic types.*

*not true of all cat people

[–] Zoidberg@lemm.ee 3 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Interesting. My reasoning is that narcissistic people crave attention, which cats may not give so overtly as a dog. Basically for a dog, a person is a god and some people love that kind of relationship.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 1 points 32 minutes ago

I've definitely seen multiple people talk about how they view it as a red flag when people like dogs but not cats because cats are mean. Their reasoning is that dogs will love you no matter what but cats have to want to get attention. The argument is that people don't understand boundaries/consent.

I see their logic, but I think it's looking a bit too far into it. Yellow flag maybe, not red.

[–] meneervana@lemm.ee 2 points 6 hours ago

In my experience dog owners often like to control another being, cat owners like to just let others be.

[–] wuphysics87@lemmy.ml 2 points 6 hours ago

So people who don't like cats are cats