I'm not sure if gay men have to deal with that more, or if it's me specifically who's weird for never having anybody do that to me when I mention my wife.
The one time anything like that did come up, I was the one who brought it up and the dude was just like "Yeah, I knew you were into women before you even said anything. You've just got that vibe."
Point is somebody took the door off my closet.
I noticed there was always a gust of wind after cars passed, so I concluded wind was caused by invisible cars driving by. Storms were caused by the invisible drivers driving too fast.
I used to go outside during storms and yell at them to slow down. I was convinced it was working.
Fixed typo resulting in ticks giving lyme disease instead of limes diseases. Ticks now properly feed on fruit juices instead of blood.
Every time that comes up, I think to myself "Something I've gone through must be more painful, right? I've gone through some pretty hellish things, and you're trying to tell me something MORE painful exists? Not just a little more, but dramatically more? For my own sanity, I'm gonna have to live in denial of that."
I used to be like this, but with movies. When I first met my wife, she was utterly baffled at the concept of somebody not enjoying movies, and she made it her mission to make me enjoy them.
Come to think of it, she actually doesn't like music much. I've failed to change her opinion on that though because my taste in music is shit (and I'm proud of it.)
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When I need to say something I'm embarrassed about, my strategy is to say it in as few words as possible, to curb over thinking and get it over with fast, and as bluntly as possible, so it won't be misunderstood causing me to have to say it again, and so it hides my embarrassment somewhat by showing some amount of confidence.
Also, waiting for the best time to say it isn't always the best thing to do, despite how logical it seems, because it gives you too much time to gather self doubts and decide not to do it. You can, of course, gather confidence that way too, but in my experience it's not as easy. I recommend saying it the next time anybody can be there to listen.
This advise is of course, based on my own personal, autistic and somewhat tone-deaf experience, and based on the assumption that you will be accepted, which you seem to indicate you would be.
At the very least, it'd create a discussion for you to talk about what you need to, so if you think it'd work for you I think it's worth a shot.
It took me a long time after realizing I was trans to transition, so I ended up having to get comfortable in women's sections while still looking very obviously like a man.
Turns out, it's the nervousness that makes people uncomfortable, because there's a lot of less good reasons a male appearing person might be nervous in a women's section. Once you can manage to shop with confidence, the worst anybody will assume is that you're shopping for a gift for a girlfriend or sister or something.
As somebody who was once part of a cult, it's just the same circus but worse.
I don't do anything. I'm the kind to completely forget about it minutes after I close whatever I was looking at. If it's a stupid enough thing that made me angry enough, sometimes I'll vent about it to my wife, and usually get the response of "Why do you care what a random person online you'll never meet thinks?" but I've gotten that response enough for it to have really sunk in to the point where I really don't care 99% of the time. I don't really debate online anymore either for that reason. The most I might do is nudge somebody in the right direction if I suspect their opinion is simply based on a lack of information, but if that fails I tend to just delete my reply and move on so I'm not bothered by it again.
The only times I ever want to go anywhere outside of where the busses can take me is when my family is taking me somewhere, in which case somebody else drives me there. The busses go quite a distance though. I can even get to small towns nobody's ever heard of if I feel like it.
It's not like I'm gonna be traveling a huge distance anyway. I live of off 900$ a month, so it's not like I could afford to go anywhere else if I wanted to.
I like listening to multiple songs at the same time. Like, playing a video game, while listening to music, but not also muting the game's music, so I hear both at once.