Save your sister, she is not okay. You are not an inferior person, there is nothing inherently wrong with you. You are not responsible for everything. Your boundaries matter. Your feelings matter. You will be okay.
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She invited you over at 2am cuz she wanted the D you fucking idiot
You fight much bigger problems that others around you. Your way of thinking is definitely not normal, seek diagnosis and help. Life is not supposed to be this complicated mentally.
Tell Mama to divorce him now. Give her this letter.
"You're trans lul, and don't worry about coming out your mom is nice and dad doesn't give a fuck" Honestly would probably make my childhood harder but would make my mid/late teens onward a lot less confusing and painful.
Hit the gym and stay consistent about it. Not only will you feel better about yourself you'll also be able to manage the physical pain you will have a lot better.
Ask that girl out JFC!
DO NOT START DRINKING
You started drinking as a child?
My friend has been an alcoholic since about 13 y.o....
You’re trans and mom’s headaches aren’t normal she needs to get them checked out
You're experiencing abuse and it's not normal. You also don't have to put up with your family because they're your family.
Whatever comes of it—whether you get hurt, or whether you get suspended—you just need to lay your bullies out.
They won’t ignore you. They won’t go away, no matter how hard you work to be unnoticeable. It’s trying to do that—to be invisible so that they’ll leave you alone—that will change the course of your life for the worse. You won’t be a high achiever, you won’t go to a good school, you’ll just coast, forever suffering the damage they did, and regretting that you didn’t do anything about it.
The only thing they’ll understand is the kind of violence that says you’re not worth fucking with. Don’t worry what Mom will think. Don’t worry about the pain of a punch or two. Don’t worry about your “permanent record”. All that will be temporary in the grand scheme of things.
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I can't think of anything I'd tell myself, but I do know what I'd tell my parents: use condoms.
This one seems very sad. I hope you are okay.
I'm stuck on a planet whose civilization is rapidly turning into a feudalist dystopia. We'll all be lucky to have roofs over our heads in 10 years. Also, it'll be impossible to survive without air conditioning. So no, I am not okay.
I think that is the most negative scenario of what could happen. I mean, you hear and see the effects of climate change more and more around you. I am also extremely worried about it. But I have still some hope that we find ways to at least keep it liveable. I do see some progress. It is not fast enough, but I hope that it will go faster once the effects become more obvious and more people actually feel the pressure. I do not think we can complete avoid climate change anymore, but we still might be able to mitigate the most horrible effects. That is what I see in the scientific papers on it, at least.
The only sure way we will not make it, is by giving up.
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You'll regret buying Heroes of Might and Magic 3, but you'll soon appreciate its greatness. Also, hold off buying a game called Skyrim until the Anniversary Edition releases.
- See a psy doc when you’re a teenager. Your teachers asking “Is everything ok? Is something wrong?” out of the blue are red flags that you need help.
- When in doubt, forgive others
Don't listen to your parents; for all of the advice out there in the world that says that your parents know what's best for you and want that for your future, that does not apply here. Also it's okay to be gay and agender, so go slay and get a sweet boyfriend.
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You're AuDHD, and I believe everything that's happening to you at home. It's real and you're not lying or making it up. You don't deserve this. You're a good person and your family wasn't prepared or willing to meet your needs. You are NOT a burden or an unlovable, broken failure of a child. You are BEAUTIFUL.
Keep writing & fiercely loving your stories - NEVER give up on them, or anything else that brings you joy; your interests & passions & the woman you love (and that love is NOT wrong) are your family now.
"Those teachers and your fellow students? They're not actually that stupid and you're not crazy. Confront your parents about those standardized tests the school had you take; they're hiding the results from you. You could do so much more if only they'd let you skip some grades, but they don't want you to grow up too fast and think you'll socialize better if you don't skip. You'll be bored and never learn how to actually learn hard subjects if you don't get away from these imbeciles quick. Oh, and you'll develop a condescending tone which drives away every potential friend you could have had if you don't do this. Also, you're trans."
Your parents are mentally ill. And you will be too. Ask them.
Get on Effexor as soon as possible. Oh and you're Autistic. Have fun!
You have ADHD, fight until you get diagnosed ASAP.
Also, dad is a fucking bully, a liar and a manipulator. Don't trust him.
It's not that hard to lose weight. You don't have to eat only lettuce. You just have to eat less.
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Don't go into manual labor.
You have generalized anxiety disorder. Learn to handle it. Also, it is very normal and most people are unaware of their psychological issues.
All kinds of Sugar and Starches are alcohol for your body. Keep up with that japanese course. Invest in Crypto hard just like you wanted to but thought it was expensive and risky at the time. Keep crypto, no sell, until a super rich publicly well known guy suddenly invests, then leave crypto days later asap.
College is not for you. I know you are looking forward to it but it will ruin your mental health, land you in massive debt, and lead to a suicide attempt. You won't finish anyway. Join a union and don't work for a place that makes aluminum molds. Do lots of ab workouts and you could avoid a couple of hernias
Improve the child hood. Not much really.
Help someone else’s childhood. Yeah I’d alert the family to the problem with their dad before the abuse.
When dad gives you advice, do the exact opposite. He's not stupid, the world has just changed so much since he was a kid.
"You will have a psychotherapy and regret it hard not doing it earlier. School psychologist is not enough. Find a psychotherapist now"
It's okay to make mistakes. Learn from them and move on. Don't let your fear of criticism stop you from trying new things.
Don't drink.
Love your close family more, you will need it.
Stay away from sugar, and only eat whole foods, this will make your life tremendously better (at least it did for me), even if you just start today.
It’s ok to go to therapy! In fact I encourage it 😁
There aren't too many things I regret. I'd tell myself to keep my mouth shut in a couple places, don't start drinking coke, maybe buy and sell some bitcoin. But for the most part, there was a lot of good with the bad, and reward from hardship.
You won't always be poor so don't worry about money.
Actually a really difficult question as very much about the childhood depends on adults (parents, teachers, ...) around you.
Maybe this one: "The whole bullying situation will not change until you leave school. Convince your parents to let you change schools."
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