Asklemmy

Kindness

Intelligence

Curiosity for things

Passion for something. It′s such a turnoff when you are talking to somebody and they aren't interested in anything.

Current events? Meh. Books? Meh. Films/Shows? Meh.

I don't care if it's stamp collecting or chewing gum flavors or the history of wallpaper design, just be passionate or interested in something. At least we can converse for while on that topic.

Sense of humor

To borrow the new age term, an old soul.

There are just people who possess a sort of cynically detached understanding of the world and people. They aren't fired by largely pointless passion or desire, they're intelligent and perceptive enough to generally understand things and emotionally mature enough to generally accept them and they have a way of just sort of gliding through life, maintaining a relatively even keel instead of getting distracted and disconcerted by irrelevancies.

Every single person I've ever known who was like that has been or is special to me.

Authorship of open-source GPU drivers.

General open-mindedness/respect/mindfullness.

A rich family.

Confidence

Having an interest in sharing something with you without making you feel stupid about it.

Went to about art museum with a guy, and he was super excited to tell me about certain pieces and artists and their history. He was very kind when I asked questions about things that were probably very obvious to a more studious person.

Was on his arm by the end of the date. Absolutely smitten!

Can make smart and educated jokes. Will laugh at fart jokes.

Empathy and I can't find a single word to describe it but being able to understand and recognize other sides of opinions or arguments/debates, respectfully of course

Someone who doesn't impose their will, beliefs, or anything else on another person.

My ex wife worked very hard at changing me, until I barely recognised who I was. My now wife let me be myself again, and I will forever lover her for that.

Emotional Maturity + sincerity + charisma is a winning combo

Compassion

A good sense of humor.

Surprised good sense of humor or wit aren’t on here yet. Playfully sparring with someone or laughing until it hurts when you hang around a person are a turn on.

Wit for men. There's nothing sexier than making a woman laugh. Sheer intelligence for women. Once I had an erection listening to my ex gf reasoning.

Being nice and kind to everyone most of the time. Being positive.

Doesn't beat me or slap my nuts with a spatula

The most attractive quality a person can have is being into me.

Independence

A good personality.

Its the single most important characteristic someone needs to have.

I like to imagine the people downvoting this are vapid, miserable assholes who are angry because every relationship they've ever had has failed, in flames, because their now ex partners told them they have awful personalities.

I like people who demonstrate the capability to think independently and come up with original ideas. The opposite of this are people with whom I only need to hear your stance on few subjects after which I know what you think about everything else too. If you agree with your friends about most things you're probably not very interesting person. Same applies if you disagree about most things too.

Consent 😎

Intelligence, and a shared interest. It's almost impossible for me to care about someone who doesn't even know how to use their own devices.

The way of using their voice

Moxy

Def curisity and a desire to learn/improve in basically any way.