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I live in an affluent part of South Carolina. It’s become completely overrun with Trump assholes and degenerates. I don’t know how much longer I can take it. Where can we go?

I don’t want the bitter cold of the northeast or Chicago. I don’t want coastal California, it’s insufferable. What are my options? Why can’t we just be fucking normal?!

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[–] Kongar@lemmy.dbzer0.com 84 points 6 months ago (10 children)

There hasn’t been “bitter cold” in the northeast for a decade. Climate change is a bitch. We barely get snow anymore - 2015 was a banger, but it’s been dustings since.

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[–] Waldowal@lemmy.world 42 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Come to Georgia. It's close. We're a swing state now. We could use your vote.

[–] fruitycoder@sh.itjust.works 8 points 6 months ago

Georgia keeps impressing me with how much green tech (solar, batteries, etc) are being built out of there too!

[–] sxan@midwest.social 33 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Southern Florida? Like the man said: Florida: the more North you go, the more South it gets. Orlando seems mostly OK. Big city, opportunities, and there's a NASA space center and launch facility not too far.

My mom lives there, and that's about the limit of my knowledge. I will personally never again willingly live south of the Mason-Dixon line.

Oh, I hear that if you stay out of the little handle at the bottom, Missouri is nice. A friend from there once told me that if they'd cut off that handle and give it to Arkansas, it'd raise the average IQ of both states. Never been there, myself.

Lots of places in Oregon and Washington are great; large swaths are not, but if you're not prone to SAD, there are great towns in the Willamette Valley: Corvallis, Eugene, and Ashville down on the California border. Also, California is enormous. N California is very different from S California, and the coast is enormously different from the interior. It's a huge state, and painting it with a single brush is like saying Georgia, the Carolinas, Virginia, Washington DC, and Pennsylvania are all the same. It's seriously about the same area as all those put together, lengthwise, at least. The greater LA/San Diego area alone is almost as big as your entire state. But the Pacific Northeast is wet if you live in the Valley, and there isn't much in the way of big cities east of the Cascades.

How about Boise, ID? Good size college city, lots of microbreweries, lots of outdoor recreation, pretty great weather if you like hot, but you get snow in the winter, too. Plus nearly half the state is national park; fantastic backpacking.

Most of these places I mentioned specifically lean liberal, although when you venture into rural areas it gets red pretty quickly, like anywhere. An exception is Orange County in CA, which is full of really crazy red-hatters. But it sound like you've already ruled out at least part of CA, and "insufferable" makes me think you're thinking specifically of S Cal.

Eugene is, or used to be, fantastic. Extremely liberal, and not trust-fund hippie style. Decent sized to be entertaining. You just have to put up with the weather and hippies, or whatever hippies have mutated into with successive generations. Pot's legal in OR, too, if that's your bag.

Bend, OR is one of the best places in the planet if you're sporty. It's high desert, but smack up against the mountains. In the summer, people rock climb and bike. In the winter, they ski Mt Bachelor. There's fishing and camping, and at one point it had more restaurants per capita than any other city in the US. There's no humidity. At all. Very pretty town. A 4 hour drive north, and you're in Portland, OR, which isn't what it used to be and has been having problems, but is still a large metro area with lots to do and a fantastic science center. 2 hrs West through the mountains is Salem, the capital, which frankly sucks; or or 3+ hours SW is the aforementioned Eugene. A couple hours south is Crater Lake. A couple three more hours and you're in the N California Redwood forest. Oh, and if you do speed through So-Lame (Salem), another 1.5 hours and you're on the Oregon coast, so 3-4 hours from Bend to the coast, mostly through a fantastic, amazing mountain range (and then the Valley and then the smaller coastal range).

If you want to stay on the E coast, I recommend the greater Philadelphia area. From there, NYC is a 3hr drive. The Jersey shore is a 3 hr drive. Washington DC is a 3 hr drive. Gettysburg is a 3 hr drive. Williamsburg, VA - possibly my favorite place in the US - is a 4-ish hour drive (depending on DC traffic). Plus, you can get to almost any of the coast cities from Philly by train, if you're willing to sacrifice a couple more hours. Pennsylvania wasn't my favorite place to live, but if you can stand living in S Carolina I'm sure it'd be fine for you.

Honestly, you might consider Minneapolis. It does get cold in the winter (-50F is the coldest I've experienced), but The Cities are fantastic, full of Art Deco architecture, and end-summer temps can hit the 100's. In September, any of the literally over 10,000 lakes are bath-water warm. And we don't have copperheads. The great lakes are close; we're practically in the center of the country, so flying anywhere in the continental US is a 4-hour flight or less. The Cities are very progressive - again, you drive an hour outside and it's Trump signs everywhere - par for the course - but within The Cities it's quite nice. And the bike paths are incredible; miles and miles, and much of it completely off-road - at some point they took all the old industry rail lines and turned them into maintained bike and foot paths. It's really quite remarkable. And the metro system isn't half bad, for a US city. The humidity gets oppressive, but, again, you're surviving S Carolina so I don't think that'd be a problem for you.

[–] TheDoozer@lemmy.world 6 points 6 months ago (2 children)

They have some pretty impressive tourism videos too.

[–] sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago
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[–] brbposting@sh.itjust.works 4 points 6 months ago

"insufferable" makes me think you're thinking specifically of S Cal.

Ohhhhh okay, thanks makes sense then. Southern… yeah I get that perception.

Lotta coast in California, nothing insufferable about Mendocino or Santa Cruz etc. (though can complain about anything and some will be very valid)

[–] Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee 31 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Come to Finland. I have absolutely zero clue about what party my neighbours vote. Hell, I don't even know who my friends of parents vote.

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[–] Marighost@lemm.ee 25 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Hello neighbor! NC will welcome you. It's purple here. Rural areas are not so great but closer to the bigger cities (Charlotte, Raleigh, Asheville, Greensboro/Winston) are nice.

Sorry about your sanity.

[–] DinosaurSr@programming.dev 5 points 6 months ago

Came here to say Asheville as well

[–] helmet91@lemmy.world 21 points 6 months ago (9 children)

I'm not from the US, so I don't know how accurate this is, and I also don't know if this thing has ever been updated (I found it a long time ago), but there's this tool that might help with deciding: https://www.whereshouldilive.co/

[–] weststadtgesicht@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

That seems like an overly tedious way of entering your preferences. Why can't I just rank a handful of factors (cheap housing, beaches, climate, politics, diversity) and give them some weight?

You could even make the ranking of the factors in the current style ("snowy winters are [much] more important than beaches"). That would reduce the cognitive load of comparing 3 vs 3 properties many times in a row.

[–] helmet91@lemmy.world 7 points 6 months ago (1 children)

You can do just that. Before you begin the quiz, there's a link to skip the quiz and directly enter your preferences.

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[–] blaine@lemmy.ml 20 points 6 months ago (1 children)

45 minutes outside of Portland, OR in any direction will get you somewhere just as rural as the place you left in SC, only with better weather and sane laws.

[–] Killer_Tree@sh.itjust.works 25 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Accurate, but be careful because once you go 2+ hours outside of Portland, OR you will likely find yourself once again among cognitively challenged folks...

[–] KammicRelief@lemmy.world 9 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Heck, 10 minutes past Portland city limits and it's Dodge Rams and Trump flags.

[–] FordBeeblebrox@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Definitely don’t keep going into Idaho

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[–] ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works 17 points 6 months ago (1 children)

If you wany a rural setting you're probably fucked.

If you're looking for a SC kind of 'city' I would suggest perhaps Colorado, or something like Bend Oregon, or Spokane Washington. More isolated cities without large populations and also surrounded by that rural character.

[–] knightly@pawb.social 7 points 6 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

Colorado is great, just don't move anywhere near Colorado Springs unless you wanna help turn it purple. The city is a Republican enclave full of defense contractors and wrapped around the Air Force Academy and a Space Force base.

[–] loopgru 12 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Portland or Seattle would for those criteria well as long as you don't mind rain. Both very progressive cities, weather is generally mild (rarely above 85, rarely below 30, usually less than 2 weeks a year with snow).

[–] morphballganon@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Was going to suggest this. Portland is rough to move to right now, it's very popular, so costs have been climbing pretty fast. But there are some decent suburbs, Milwaukie, Tigard, Beaverton, Vancouver.

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[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 8 points 6 months ago

If options were no object, Pacific Northwest is beautiful and temperate

[–] Today@lemmy.world 8 points 6 months ago (2 children)

SC doesn't have any blue bubbles? I'm in Texas and i only know about 5 people that i think are probably trumpsters.

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[–] Boinkage@lemmy.world 8 points 6 months ago

Durham or chapel Hill? We got lots of libs over here.

[–] Objection@lemmy.ml 7 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

Atlanta, Denver, somewhere in Virginia, Maryland, or DC, or possibly Ohio or Pennsylvania. There's places like Austin and some places in Florida that might have cool people, but the state government is trash.

I saw Greenville recommended, and this is anecdotal, but last time I was there visiting friends, we (visibly queer) got followed around by this crazy guy with a metal pipe making all kinds of death threats. I love my friends but that sealed the deal for me on not wanting to live there. There are some neat places there ngl, the sex themed desert restaurant was a fun place for a queerplatonic hangout, but in general it's not exactly going to be a refuge from Trump supporters.

[–] Metacortechs@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago

Speaking of Virginia, stay in the north half. Down here in the southern part is maga fucks as far as the eye can see.

One down the road just put up a huge Confederate flag and two large trump flags. Instead of fixing their collapsing roof. Priorities I guess...

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[–] expr@programming.dev 6 points 6 months ago (2 children)

There are a number of blue cities in the Midwest. What's the lowest temp you want? I live in Lincoln, Nebraska and it's pretty great: nice weather most of the year, low cost of living, blue city, tons of parks. Only downside is dealing with red state bullshit from the state government.

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[–] LetKCater2U@sh.itjust.works 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

What’s wrong with California?

[–] Cryophilia@lemmy.world 15 points 6 months ago

Too awesome

[–] Fredselfish@lemmy.world 6 points 6 months ago

Stay and run for office. Even under a maga banner..if anything shown we can change this country it's voting. Also both parties shown that you can change parties once in office. So run win then go full blown progressive while in office.

[–] Etterra@lemmy.world 6 points 6 months ago

Hey, Chicago food is way better and the child weather kills all the bugs every year. Don't be a wimp, move north. Or what your kids will have to anyway thanks to climate change. Oh yeah, we've never had a hurricane up here.

[–] stringere@sh.itjust.works 6 points 6 months ago

Pacific Northwest

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 5 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Charlotte? Raleigh? DC?

I'm in Tampa and it's a real mix here, but oof housing cost is out of control.

If you don't like to be in a city, you will probably be in a backwards place, that's just how the US works. But lots of mid sized cities are moderate politically.

[–] baggachipz@sh.itjust.works 8 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Yeah we live across the border from Charlotte. The area would be really nice if it could stop stepping on its own dick so much. The public schools are among the top in the nation (believe it or not) but a maga bitch who’s hell-bent on destroying the system just won. The sheriff who won tonight was at Jan 6 and freely admits it. It might be time to get out of here.

[–] PlantDadManGuy@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago

First of all congrats on realizing the insanity around you. Second of all there's probably a lot more moderate liberals in your area than you realize because they're smart enough to shut the fuck up around the insane maga posse. Be the change you want to see in the world. Stand up for your beliefs. And if you do actually decide to jump ship, just remember there are other parts of California besides the coast...

[–] SeikoAlpinist 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

North Carolina is gerrymandered to hell.

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[–] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 5 points 6 months ago

I live in a similar part of SC as well. I feel you.

When I had a FB acct, I wasnpart of my area's group, and the racists there was insane, even one person litterally was complaining that she moved to this area because she was tired of the north and was looking for the "white parts" of the south.

If you figure out where to move, please post an update, looking for somewhere new as well.

[–] PRUSSIA_x86@lemmy.world 5 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Come to Columbus, Ohio. It doesn't have the name recognition of Seattle or Denver, but it's a pretty chill city with decent weather, good people, and a lower cost of living than just about anywhere else while also having job opportunities.

[–] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago

plus, Steven and Elise Keaton! (Family Ties was set there)

[–] Brkdncr@lemmy.world 4 points 6 months ago

Northern New Mexico?

[–] EarthShipTechIntern@lemm.ee 4 points 6 months ago

Because Putin & Murdoch hate democracy & know new age warfare: troll social media, market fake news.

With a tiny troll army: Created a party of snowflakes that calls everybody else snowflakes.

Streaming endless propaganda (Fake News: Fox, Alex Jones etc)

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