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I just got up from conversation with a couple of older black men, that I said "well I got to go back to work and start cracking the whip." And it occurred to me then that it was probably a really insensitive stupid thing to say.

Sadly, it hadn't occurred to me until it's already said.

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[โ€“] 520@kbin.social 54 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Unfortunately there isn't really a full list because that shit changes so often. Previously accepted phrases become slurs and yesterday's slurs get reclaimed.

[โ€“] Thisfox@sopuli.xyz 21 points 1 year ago (2 children)

And it is locational. Something insensitive in the US might be insensitive here in Oz or over in Europe.... Or might not.

That is how idiom works.

[โ€“] 520@kbin.social 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yep. Can be things you wouldn't even think about too. For example the word 'spastic' isn't offensive in the US, but is deeply offensive in the UK, similar to the word 'retard'

[โ€“] HandBreadedTools@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Both of those terms are offensive in the US, too. People that use it just choose to not value the input from those that they offend.

[โ€“] 520@kbin.social 1 points 1 year ago

TIL, and I'm sorry to hear that :(

[โ€“] christian@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

This is kind of tangential, but I don't think I ever would have known that "poof" was an anti-gay slur in Britain if I hadn't played Pokemon White. I wanted to.use that as a nickname and had to look up online why the game was preventing me.

[โ€“] Thisfox@sopuli.xyz 2 points 1 year ago

Exactly.

The one I always tell about is a yank commedian who, on his first tour over here, lost everyone when he asked for his audience to bend over and pat each other on the fanny. In context, the joke would have made sense in America. Here in Oz, it was far more offensive than he thought it was, and the audience got upset with him, and you could see him realising he lost us. A whole lot of explaining needed doing, for both sides. Apparently he honestly thought he was talking about backsides. Poor sod. Thankfully bewildered American being lynched by pissed off audience wasn't the main event that night....

Odd to think of a land where poof is not a slur. It is a slur here in Australia too.

[โ€“] Welt@lazysoci.al 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Yesterday

Cursรจd Saracens did spoil my day

Give us strength to crush those hordes, I pray

Oh, I believe in Huns to slay

[โ€“] VaultBoyNewVegas@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Where I live Huns a slur for a protestant.

[โ€“] Thisfox@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Everywhere it is a slur for people of mongolian descent.

Not in Northern Ireland a place where people from protestant and Catholic communities were killing each other for 30 years. Educate yourself before you try to correct others. The reason it's used against Protestants is because of the reformation being started by a German. Also hun was used against Germans during WW2.