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[–] CaptDust@sh.itjust.works 222 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (7 children)

misogyny is a skill issue

Always has been, weak men can't stand women outpacing them, this is not limited to gaming but basically anything and everything.

[–] not_that_guy05@lemmy.world 124 points 1 year ago (8 children)

Had co-workers say they would never marry someone making more than them. Shit is so weird.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 56 points 1 year ago (1 children)

jfc, being a home-husband is the dream, their fucking loss

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 20 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Been there, done that, it sucked.

It was great at first! But after 6-months I was depressed. Guess I'm the sort that requires the structure a regular job provides. Kinda been the same for WFH. :(

[–] kadu@lemmy.world 23 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I had depression before WFH, still have it but at least now I can work with my cat on my lap

[–] uis@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Do you pet the cat?

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I like WFH but I hated being a house-husband. WFH gives me something to do more than cleaning and cooking and childcare.

[–] uis@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Play some games, contribute to opensource, read academic papers. There are a lot of work to do even if you are not employed.

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Believe it or not, cooking, cleaning and childcare full time doesn't really leave you with much energy to play games, let alone contribute to open source or read academic papers.

[–] Tankton@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That requires a certain amount of intelligence and interest in those things. No disrespect to those people but it you are below average IQ and make a living in a simple job, you cant just contribute to open source software and read academic papers for a hobby.

[–] uis@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

I replied to comment that says being house-husband sucks because there are not enough things to do.

Also there are minimal intelligence requirements for reporting bugs or donating.

[–] Zink@programming.dev 43 points 1 year ago

It shows how stupid and against your own best interests this kind of thinking can be.

I am the full time worker in my family, and happy to be the provider for them. However, I would be a stay at home dad / house-husband so damn fast if my wife got some random job mom making a lot more than me. I do have my priorities in order, after all.

[–] GigglyBobble@kbin.social 21 points 1 year ago

I'd do housework and care for the kids in a heartbeat if my wife made enough.

[–] CeeBee@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

My genuine theory is that many (if not most) people are emotionally stunted or emotionally immature. You don't get this kind of mentality from someone who is balanced.

Now expand that to every facet of life and you get the world we live in.

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Hahahha most of our relationship i made more than his lordship. Now he makes more than me and he hates it. He wants to be a kept man, dammit

[–] uis@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Maybe because it is not in realm of possible instead of something they don't want?

[–] Tavarin@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 year ago

There are wealthy women out there, so it is entirely in the range of possibility. My mom's first husband left her when she started making more money as a lawyer than him. It's an ego thing.

[–] stevehobbes@lemmy.world 18 points 1 year ago

The issue with this is it’s too simplistic.

What it’s actually saying is “it’s easy to not be misogynistic as long as you’re significantly better than all the women”.

It does not imply that you won’t be misogynistic as soon as you are threatened.

Ie when status quo is maintained (patriarchy is intact for you) it’s easy to support women.

[–] chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It would be interesting to see if it's really because of how they are as individuals or more about the response to social status thing. Like if they did an experiment where high performers were deceived into thinking they were actually performing poorly, and vice-versa, would the attitudes towards women be reversed or not? The conclusions in OP seem to imply the researchers think they would be.

[–] Frozengyro@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

My hypothesis is men with low self esteem would be more misogynistic vs men with high self esteem.

[–] Fapp@lemmynsfw.com 4 points 1 year ago

My hypothesis is that if you're a piece of shit, that will extend to all walks of life(misogny, sucking at video games) whereas if you are not, the same rules apply(equality, excelling at video games)

By being a piece of human garbage you effectively hamstring yourself in every field.

[–] someacnt@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 year ago

This explains why I am misogynistic..

[–] bouh@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago

The reverse is not true unfortunately. Skilled men are often mysoginistic assholes too.