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When you vet someone for whether you can be close friends with them, what's a seemingly unimpactful characteristic about someone that would instantly rule them out as a potential close friend for you? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] OceanSoap@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

How they treat people who disagree with them politically. If they immediately hate/cut off people for political disagreements, we're not going to be friends any deeper than surface level.

[–] Kanzar@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Depends on the disagreement... if the topic under discussion is as inflammatory as abortion or trans rights, I'm sure you can understand why some folks can't agree to disagree.

[–] OceanSoap@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago

Not agreeing to disagree isn't the same as cutting someone off from your life, even for those issues. There are multiple issues within those issues that are extreme. For example, I'm pro-choice, but the cutoff for me is probably around the 24 week mark. Pushing for more than that, to me, is extreme, unless we're talking outlier situations, which would go on a case-by-case basis.

Based on that, many people who are extreme in their belief would certainly cut me out of their life for not supporting late-term abortion.

This all-or-nothing approach is just irrational. It's not a good match friendship-wise.

[–] MJBrune@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Eh it depends on how wrong they are. Perpetuating hate speech? I'm going to cut you off and tell you that you are wrong. Actual politics though, I'll have a conversation.