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I'm not sure it's so simple. While certainly some people are disingenuous about their intentions going into relationships, I think it's more common that people are being genuine but either their intentions change or they simply aren't as strong or committed as they thought they were. It doesn't help that polyamorous or other people who have multiple partners are often shamed and looked down upon by many people, and a relationship ending is often seen as a shameful failure as well. These forces suggest to people that acknowledging their own needs and desires to themselves means admitting they are bad or a failure. Therefore they operate under the assumption that they will be a good and faithful partner because the alternative is uncomfortable for them to accept.

The number of people who cheat in relationships is astronomical. Are all of those people bad and dishonest? They are imperfect certainly. But maybe it's also true that the structures and norms around relationships are what's creating much of this harmful behavior.