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It was my birthday a few days ago and all I can think about is how I'm still a virgin (lemmynsfw.com)

submitted 3 weeks ago by Streammy@lemmynsfw.com to c/casualconversation@lemm.ee

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I feel like past a certain age everyone doesn't like growing older. For me I have that same feeling plus the added pressure that every year I go from being an X year old virgin to an X+1 one year old virgin. I'm about to finish collage and go into the work field which given my internship I can already tell I won't have much of a chance at meeting new people even less girls.

Everytime I find someone and start getting along with them really well. I think to my self this will finally be the year which I stop being a virgin. But it just has not worked out. Of course I dont go into a relationship with the sole goal of losing my V-card but it is something that crosses my mind.

I am 24 year old and I am still a virgin.

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[–] Streammy@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Is not only about the sex but also having a meaningful enough relationship to want to do it with that person

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

If it's not only about the sex, why was the sex the first (and only) thing you reached for?

Everytime I find someone and start getting along with them really well. I think to my self this will finally be the year which I stop being a virgin. But it just has not worked out.

So you have someone you get along with really well, and instead of being happy about that you whine (and yes, this is whining) about them not having sex with you.

Your focus is on sex and that's the only thing you can change: your focus.

[–] Streammy@lemmynsfw.com 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I never said this was my only and first thought but it is part of the topic of the conversation and it is something that crosses my mind but its not the main thing I think about when I'm getting to get to know someone

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 0 points 2 weeks ago

You didn't say it. You showed it. Of all the things you could mention about meeting people you got along with and enjoyed spending time with, you complained they wouldn't sex you up.

That tells me where your focus is.

You know what? Women can tell when the guy sitting across from us is thinking about us as chiefly a pile of meat that they want to fuck.

[–] DarkThoughts@fedia.io 2 points 2 weeks ago

That's also not something you can enforce. Don't meet people with the outlook of them becoming your partner. The best relationships are those where you know that person for a long time and have a bond with already. So find ways to make friends instead and just let things happen when they happen.