Alice

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[–] Alice@beehaw.org 10 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

For people with physical jobs, try a little weight lifting. You don't have to be the best or lift super heavy weights for it to be useful.

It's one thing to have signs up at work reminding you to lift with your knees. It's another thing to really learn, through constant practice, how to move your body safely, and activate muscles you never thought about. You won't need signs to remind you, and you're less likely to lift something stupidly and fuck up your joints even if you're in a hurry, because correct technique will be burnt into your brain.

I know it's not exactly obscure knowledge but a lot of people don't bother unless they've got some kind of body goal. I've found it to be an educational experience even if I'm not a bodybuilder.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 9 points 1 day ago

I'm so sorry. I wish the world was kinder.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 11 points 1 day ago

My condolences

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 9 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Congratulations! You don't have to see the guy with a confederate flag skullcap tattoo around town and resist the urge to bash his face

 
[–] Alice@beehaw.org 16 points 1 day ago (8 children)

I live in the US south.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 5 points 1 day ago

I hope you're able to find a solution. Sleep deprivation makes everything so much harder.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This is nice as I have a ton of games I haven't opened since my family accidentally broke my Switch. Never bothered to repair or replace it since I keep worrying that as soon as I do, the next console will be announced.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 1 points 1 day ago

Half my customers want me dead and the other half don't because they don't notice I'm queer 🙃 I enable them to buy video games that fund transphobic campaigns, toys that fund Israel, and drinks that fund death squads. I could quit my job and die, but the machine would keep turning, I'd just be its latest casualty.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 1 points 1 day ago

I've had mostly terrible interactions with doctors, including them trying me on random SSRIs for nearly a decade before they ran out of options and agreed to try ADHD meds.

I did have one REALLY good interaction with a guy at a walk-in clinic though. Felt my knee while I bent it and told me imaging wasn't necessary because he could feel the tear. Multiple years of false answers and physical therapy that went nowhere and then I got lucky enough to have a doctor who had the same kind of tear and knew what he was doing.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 3 points 1 day ago

Depends what you mean by "chore" because I still had to cook and walk my cat (we're leash training), but I think I spent the day trying to make a papier-mache mask but gave up because I messed up my base piece. Literally all I did was glue paper together then throw it away and it was the most creatively fulfilling experience I've had in ages.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 19 points 1 day ago

About to get a lot worse!

 
 

I tried /r/suicidewatch on that other site, but even though I made it clear that I was looking for advice and encouragement, the only two replies I got were in agreement that it doesn't get better. 😐 /r/depression is even worse by the look of it.

Does anyone know of any good websites, or is it the nature of all of them that they just turn into a crabs-in-the-bucket nightmare? I'm trying to get better but it also gets isolating pretending I'm not depressed all the time.

 
 

Never done this before, turned out to be a lot of fun :)

 

I'm 30 and horrible at keeping friends. I don't know if it's the unschooling or the autism, but I'm told I come across as hostile when I think I'm being nice.

I know the basics. I make eye contact but not too much, I ask people about themselves and their interests to show I'm interested, I don't dominate conversations with myself and my own interests. I try to be a nice person people might want to keep around, too— I give money when someone's in a pinch, I remember birthdays, I help move, et cetera.

Eventually people either people tell me I'm being a dick in ways I never realized, or more likely, they just eventually stop messaging me back.

The one thing I'm sure I struggle with is body language. I've read a lot that you need to mirror the other person's body language, but I don't know how to do that. Especially since I normally meet people at work and we're usually pushing big carts around and moving products and I'm just not thinking about my body as something expressive, just practical.

I'm sure I have many more blind spots that I'm not even aware of.

So like... are there classes for this? Some kind of specialized therapy? I don't really want to try anymore unless I can stop being a dick

 
 
 

‘Family values’ bill is adopted despite being denounced by the president, rights groups and the European Union.

Kesaria Abramidze, a trans model, was murdered the day after the bill passed. Even if the president vetos it, this law already has a body count.

 
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submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) by Alice@beehaw.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
 

So basically I was unschooled, and the amount of books I've read in my life is embarrassingly low. It was never emforced like in a school, and with my family's religious hangups, I never tried getting into new things because I never knew what would be deemed "offensive".

But I'm always interested when I hear people talk about both storycraft and also literary criticism, so I want to take an earnest stab at getting into books.

No real criteria, I don't know what I like so I can't tell you what I'm looking for, other than it needs to be in English or have an English translation. Just wanna know what y'all think would make good or important reading.

ETA holy shit thanks for all the suggestions! Definitely gonna make a list

ETA if I reply extremely late it's because it took me this long to get a library card in my new locale.

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