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[–] TempleSquare@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

The principal message at the top sets back acceptance for my trans friend.

By shooting for a distant objective that does not resonate with 90+ percent of people, we run the risk of arming hatefilled right-wing bigots. They can wave this around as "proof" that transgendered and non-binary people deserve entirely no rights.

Can't we shoot for a "You do you, and I'll do me" world where most of us cis people can enjoy our identity in peace -- while extending the same respect to transgendered and non-binary friends who also want to just live life in peace?

Crusading against all gender norma and against all gendered language is not a sustainable game plan here.

This is a common meme that's not meant to be taken seriously. I don't think OP is trying to literally spread that message. Someone else posted this example further down in the thread:

[–] oshitwaddup@lemmy.antemeridiem.xyz 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I agree with what you're saying, but i think there is value in pointing out how arbitrary gender can be. Like the whole conservative "what is a woman" thing, i think it's good to remind them labels are generally more just a fuzzy category humans made up that shouldn't be used to define who gets rights and who doesn't

Absolutely, couldn't agree more.

[–] Lux@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's up to interpretation, and I'm not sure how OP intended it, but "Stop using binary genders" doesn't have to mean "don't be a man or woman". Once you add more genders, the system is no longer binary. If we assume that man = 0 and woman = 1, we can use the infinity of numbers between, as well as 0 and 1 themselves. Basically, if gender is a spectrum, there are no binary genders.

[–] Kaiyalai@friendsofdesoto.social 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

@Lux @TempleSquare one of those things where there clearly was no ill intent but the end result is far too easily read as having ill intent regardless.

[–] FirstMajesticComet@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Personally I think we need to work on not seeing it as hostile at least as quickly as we do. It is very true that many are way too quick to impose a binary view of gender or gender stereotypes onto others. I was egged aggressively when I was younger both due to my androgynous appearance (genetic) and due to the fact I liked to wear "girly" clothing and had long hair (still do). Honestly as an Agender it really felt shitty to be told constantly that I "must be a girl" because of stupid arbitrary gender stereotypes.

So I say we should be more open about gender, not to say that people can't be a Man or a Woman if they identify that way, but that they are only if they identify that way. Gender stereotypes do not define us and we shouldn't imply that they do, it's dangerous and hurtful (it even comes back to bite Binary trans people too, i.e. transmasc femboys who get called a girl for wearing "girly" clothes).

[–] BomberMan9865@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago

This is very true actually, really tired of people forcing binary gender stereotypes onto others. Even in supposedly safe spaces this happens. We really need to stop forcing gender assignment onto others and also stop forcing binary genders onto others who don't conform to gender stereotypes, like saying that wearing [gendered clothing] makes you gay or an egg. It's not cool.

[–] Aesthesiaphilia@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

Hello, cis person here.

wat?

Thank you.

[–] akariii@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

i stole this from know your meme AMA

[–] oshitwaddup@lemmy.antemeridiem.xyz 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hi thanks for the ama invite, my question is: can you link the know your meme page it's from so i don't have to google it?

[–] maddy1149@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

what is your favorite color?

[–] bric@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Isn't this meme format usually used with text that's supposed to be absurd and over the top? Usually when I see this it's with text that the author wouldn't actually agree with, or at least not when taken to the extreme the meme implies. Maybe I just got lost in the layers of parody, but isn't the format kind of undermining the point you're trying to make here?

[–] Zyansheep@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago

I think its just post-irony.

[–] rain_worl@lemmy.world 0 points 1 month ago

wonder how many dimensions a gender embedding would have
generalize it to a personality embedding