Not really dark humor, but years ago I was on the phone with someone who I had just gotten to know, and I sent her the link to 2 girls 1 cup while we were on the phone. I could hear the piano music over the phone and she didn't say a word the entire time. I was just like, shit, what have I done? I thought for sure she was going to hang up on me. Then at the end she said WTF and started laughing, and re-watched it twice. We were besties for years after that.
I asked a woman out at work. Even as I walked toward her I was thinking “this is stupid, I’m going to ruin it”.
Then I asked if she’d ever like to catch a comedy show with me. She asked why I asked her. I said I thought she was funny. She said she’d think about it. I walked away for a few seconds, came back saying “this is stupid. This is where we work” and she agreed, saying it would go against her rules. I said “pretend I never asked”, knowing it was impossible.
Later on we texted, and she said something like “I’m too busy for a social life (what a gentle let-down), but we can be work friends”.
And get this … she’s actually a work friend now. We work in a big complex and cross paths sometimes, and it’s fun when we see each other. She’s funny and sweet and somehow supportive just with her presence. Like I’ll be having a rough time with a client or whatever and she’ll come by and just make eye contact and it feels like an old friend just walked in. Despite me having known her for just a couple months, she feels like an old friend.
I dunno. I totally fucked up, broke my own rule and hers, and it still produced something valuable.
That's really awesome to hear. Work friends like that make work so much better!
There's no best time. I consider instances of dark humor a Schrödinger's cat experiment.
People who can't digest dark humour and some double meaning sex jokes are not my friends. I don't have anything to do with such people.
Not saying this is the case for you, but some people use 'dark humor' as a front for thinly veiled racism or sexism and the deliberate offense is what's not tolerated.
I agree with that. But I believe that people should criticise and make fun of everything in the world to the point where people stop getting butt heart for anything and everything.
The best time was yesterday, the second best is today.
Tomorrow and every day after will also do.
Exactly. You don't need to be popular with the majority. It's best to get to the people that "get you" as fast as possible, and not waste any time trying to "play it safe" and appeal to more people.
After your true values have been clearly demonstrated consistently for long enough that you aren't misunderstood to actually believe in the terrible thing. For example, if I make a joke about something terrible it'll be related to a subject which those close to me know I care deeply about helping.
At work, news on radio was: old lady found dead in apartment, her dog had eaten her. So I said, worst part was she didn't even get to enjoy it. It did not go over well. So maybe not time is best time. But we try anyway
anytime is a good time. just rip off that band-aid and see what happens.