I prefer RSS for this to not clutter my feed with these things and keep it "people-y" instead. For taking part in the discussion you need to head over to HN anyways. I'm using Leonid Shevtsov's Hacker News Frontpage Digest Feed as it shows the first paragraph of the linked website and the top 3 comments at a glance. Then I can decide to go the website or directly to the comments on HN.
And if you don't like this, there's also Hacker News RSS.