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[–] Aesk@lemmy.world 32 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I tend say "I mean..." before saying things. No one has ever pointed it out. but I'm very aware of it and catch myself doing it all the time. Sometimes 2-3 times in a discussion.

[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 13 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] Valmond@lemmy.mindoki.com 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] cheese_greater@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

i nice, u nice, we make nicer

[–] mayflower@lemmy.ml 7 points 9 months ago

Dang, I do that too

[–] Windshear@lemmy.ca 31 points 9 months ago (5 children)

Biting my nails and the skin around my nails. Currently trying to quit again. On day 6.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago (2 children)

You're doing great. What helped me quit when I was a teenager was to always know where my nail clippers were, and have fast access to them. So whenever I had an urge due to an uneven nail edge, I'd just smooth it out with clippers or a nail file. Really made it simple to quit.

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[–] PhatInferno@midwest.social 3 points 9 months ago (3 children)

I used to do it, what helped me break it was keeping a rubber band on my wrist and every time id bite, id snap my self with the rubber band, took ~1.5 weeks for me to stop

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[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 31 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Staying up late. It's not harmless.

[–] JimmyBigSausage@lemm.ee 6 points 9 months ago

I used to do that. Now, I loooove getting in my bed and cutting out the light and it’s β€œnight night”!

Same. I will potter around until 5 or 6 am and then hate myself as I have a meeting in the morning that I will either need to drag myself out of bed for or sleep until lunchtime and lose half the productive day.

[–] Karlos_Cantana@sopuli.xyz 24 points 9 months ago (1 children)

RΜΆeΜΆdΜΆdΜΆiΜΆtΜΆ Lemmy

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[–] shandrakor@lemmy.world 21 points 9 months ago (8 children)

Reading.

Hear me out! I have always been an avid reader, get very sucked into plots. I got diagnosed with ADHD in June. Since I've been medicated I've read $15,000 worth of library books. A little of that amount was before June, but most has been since then.

I will walk around the house making food while reading. If I am doing something that requires my hands then it's a podcast or audiobook. This all being said a lot has been manga or graphic novels but there have been days when I read 10+ books.

Probably doesn't sound like the worst problem but it's something that has started to impact my life in ways I did not expect.

Thanks for reading!

[–] conciselyverbose@kbin.social 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I haven't done the math on "value" read, but I do 15-20 hours of audiobook (because 2x speed) on work days. It definitely can make finding new reads a challenge.

[–] ares35@kbin.social 5 points 9 months ago (2 children)

some libraries include that fun little stat on your slips.

[–] conciselyverbose@kbin.social 3 points 9 months ago

That's kind of cool. I'd need to combine a lot of different sources to get a number, though. I use all of Libby and Hoopla from my library, a scribd subscription (sorry, everand, I guess now), Audible, and Apple Books to handle my audiobook needs (and more for ebooks, though I have less time for that).

[–] shandrakor@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago (2 children)

That is exactly how I know ! Glad my library system isn't the only one that does that.

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[–] 520@kbin.social 4 points 9 months ago (4 children)

You could try set a countdown on your phone to snap you out of it after an hour or so.

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[–] greedytacothief@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I've been sucked into a depression fueled reading hole where I just read and lay in bed for several days. What's weird though is after a couple of days I start to narrate my dreams and if long enough it begins to make its way into my waking life?

Ever experienced anything like this?

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[–] DelightfulBreeze@lemmy.one 19 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Late night snacking

Waking up feeling slightly sick has been the norm for me for the past 5+ years

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[–] lwuy9v5@lemmy.world 18 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Learning a new hobby right after getting partway through another one

[–] guacupado@lemmy.world 17 points 9 months ago (4 children)

Biting my nails. Been doing it for as long as I can remember. I think I stopped once but went back to it as soon as I realized I stopped.

[–] AceFuzzLord@lemm.ee 3 points 9 months ago (3 children)

I have the same problem, except I'll sometimes end up chewing them so much that one finger will bleed in-between the finger and nail on the side. In fact, I'm pretty sure I have dried blood under one of my fingernails.

[–] Turbofish@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

I used be a an absolute fiend for biting my nails. What fixed it was buying a little Swiss army knife nail set. It's got a wee little nail clippers and file. It fulfilled the need for nervous movement.

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[–] thelsim@sh.itjust.works 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Oh I can relate with this. I've recently managed to stop (hopefully for good) for the silliest of reasons. I want nice long nails.
I know it sounds silly, but I've switched from biting my nails to running my finger tip along one of my nails instead. I admire how nice they feel and it somehow takes the biting impulse away.
One thing I do need to do is an almost daily filing to keep them completely smooth. I know that I'll resume biting if I find an irregularity or a jagged edge.

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[–] Honytawk@lemmy.zip 3 points 9 months ago

There is invisible nail polish that works well.

It makes nails taste horrible, and you will be reminded even if you bite your nails absent-mindedly.

Should give it a try if you really want to stop.

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[–] badbytes@lemmy.world 14 points 9 months ago

I can't stop buying Chia pets. They can't stop making new designs. Send help.

Biting/Knawing/Anxiety picking at my lips and fingers, it's not fun

[–] z00s@lemmy.world 10 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Turns out Lemmy is pretty wholesome according to this thread :P

[–] Empricorn@feddit.nl 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

To be fair, they specifically asked for harmless habits!

Mine is I can't resist being contrary/devil's advocate...

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[–] Mango@lemmy.world 10 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] LemmyKnowsBest@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

You're struggling to break that habit?

[–] Mango@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago
[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 9 months ago

Eating sweets.
Doesnt kill me (yet).

[–] sntx@lemm.ee 9 points 9 months ago (3 children)

Forgetting time, space and everything else while I write code.

Not that I've almost set the kitchen on fire before by forgetting the pizza in the oven while writing "this one little function".

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[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 8 points 9 months ago

I tend to start sentences with "So," in emails and that just doesn't seem professional.

[–] Underwaterbob@lemm.ee 7 points 9 months ago (5 children)

I love caffeine, but it messes me up bad. Absolutely debilitating headaches. I'll go six months or something without, and then relapse until I get woken up by a jackhammer in my skull and give it up again. Sigh. I don't understand the studies that actually suggest it's good for you.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I have occasionally tried giving up caffeine, and once the initial withdrawal headache passed, all that happened for me was more migraines (even after several months without it) and about 3 lb of weight increase. Daily caffeine does help me to prevent headaches.

[–] Underwaterbob@lemm.ee 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (4 children)

Funny how caffeine for me causes headaches, and for you prevents them. I used to get bad migraines (the throwing-up-painful kind) when I was young. I wonder if that has something to do with it.

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[–] morphballganon@lemmy.world 7 points 9 months ago (2 children)

If it was harmless, why would I care to break it?

If you strive to break a habit, it likely is because it has done harm, no?

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

https://lemmy.ca/comment/5299611

Doesnt harm/kill OP, but OP wants to quit anyway.

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[–] tomi000@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago (2 children)

It says seemingly harmless

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[–] dog@suppo.fi 6 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Caffeine. For the love of god, why isn't this drug ~~legalized~~ legislated like Alcohol and Nicotine is?!

[–] Klicnik@sh.itjust.works 6 points 9 months ago

I get a headache if it is late enough in the morning and I haven't had caffeine yet. I get a headache if I have too much caffeine.

[–] cardboardchris@lemmings.world 5 points 9 months ago

laughing a stupid little laugh after I'm done talking. probably comes off as nervous and awkward. I hate it.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 5 points 9 months ago

Whenever I'm typing and there's a character limit, if I'm closer to the limit than I am to having zero characters, I try to fill the limit with precision even if I don't need to.

[–] Dioz@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

For some reason I can't seem to stop shaking a bottle of water first before taking a sip out of it

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