The number of clients I get who are clearly struggling with the burden of "what a man is and isn't" would astound you... Hint: It's a lot!
No, boys aren't OK...
Just be you, friends!
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As a former boy... Yeah... Shit sucks.
Damn. Being a boy was so rough, it made you change teams?!
You are now on RED!
The teams have been autobalanced
Better red than dead.
Unless we're talking about communists.
Guess I just didn't have it in me 🤷♀️
Getting constantly punished for being "weak" and showing emotions kinda does create problems it appears. Apparently it's not very healthy to ignore emotions and pretend to be stronger than you are. It took quite a while to get over that.
There's so much wrong with the expectations on men set by media and by society. Change is happening, but there are plenty of people who seem to want to keep things this way. Grown up men who still perpetuate all this bullshit, constantly kicking down on any minority group or anyone who stands out just to look tough.
Men struggle too. It was dumb to assume otherwise, but that's what was done.
Man up, sit down Chin up, pipe down Socks up, don't cry Drink up, don't whine "Grow some balls," he said "Grow some balls"
The mask of masculinity Is a mask A mask that's wearing me
-- "Samaritans" by IDLES
Hey, imagine growing up in an environment that deliberately stunts your emotional development since early childhood, encourages you to hide your feelings or mask them with anger, ties your essential worth as a person to your utility, neglects and ghosts you as punishment for transgressions, models all relationships either as transactions or conquests, and constantly flirts with an idea to kill you in the name of some belief, policy, dogma or tradition. All that with ZERO PEER SUPPORT, and zero solidarity amongst your gender.
Identifying with a banished Greek god of War sometimes helps me trough the day. If he can transcend a moldy curse of war-mongering masculinity to focus on those he loves, so can I. I expect no judgement.
Fuck yea, you go guy ❤️🩹
im so glad i found some like minded people online that shaped me to not hide emotions like others do
I also find gals to be soooooo much more considerate to talk with, rather than guys who from my experience for the most part just care about short-term mindless fun and avoidance/coping
I'm remembering the meme about the girl destroying her cheating now-ex boyfriend by pointing out that "Goku would be so disappointed in you"
The ex-bf's face
True. Unless you bring food or training he aint impressed
No they are not lol, is anybody right now? Ppl just pay less attention to it for men.
I'm fucking devastated and obliterated. I thought life would be easier for me because I had social skills and I'm easily amused. Lmao no. They fucking found a way to ruin my life too. 🤷♀️🤦🏻♀️
I'm sorry. Life comes in waves. It'll get better.
Thanks ☺️
Is there a “Matt Berry encourages you to brush your teeth?”
Matt Berry as, Matt Berry brushing his teeth.
I'd watch a season of that at least.
For me it's Lord Shaxx
Watched a few of these to see how AI has gone. It's decent when you just need to monotone some dialog, which is what these are, but they still have uncanny valley issues. The actual advice is basic 101 stuff.
What I will say is, afaik there are absolutely zero male role models that aren't grifting for money and/or setting some kind of political agenda. So I guess all that's left is fictional characters. As far as Father's go, most are shit, dead, or "out for smokes", and the exceptions don't know either.. too busy working probably.
"Are boys okay?"
no