Not to mention voluntarily installing some of the worst spyware...
‘I have a gambling problem’
‘The casino has lots of resources that can help problem gamblers’
Absolute madness.
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I mean... they do they can ban you for life... so....
For actual tips though, healthygamersgg on YouTube/Twitch is an excellent resource. He is a licensed therapist and has a ton of adhd videos and other topics.
This is only the half of it. Dude spent years becoming a monk and learned a bunch of meditation techniques and practices that have been transformative for me. I've been looking at ADHD resources on YouTube for years and no one else I've seen there have the insights he does. I ended up purchasing his guide but just going through his YouTube catalog I'm still finding videos that are gold.
He's also given me a lot of topics that taught me how to actually recognize issues that I had, and to bring that to my personal therapist to talk about. They really work well together!
This might be a personal issue, but to me the vibes feel off with him. I’m not against someone self promoting, it just seems like every video of his I’ve seen has him wedging his $75 guide and $600 “group coaching” into conversations whenever he can. I’m not saying he’s wrong about anything or that his videos aren’t useful, he just comes off as very used car salesman to me.
A lot of his approach seems to be based on vedic philosophy, and all that is available free if you don't want to go through him. You can walk into a temple and leave with free books because they believe knowledge should be free. All they ask is you pass the book on when you're finished.
I've got nothing against the guy though, I don't know enough about him, just pointing out that you can get the knowledge free if you want to.
I like Dr. K and think the content he puts out is important and useful, but there are a few items with his approach that I don't appreciate. In a few of his earlier videos, he uses an example of a farmer vs. a hunter (or something thereabouts) to explain why certain unproductive thoughts can be reoccurring in people. I find that this has a lot of overlap with evolutionary psychology, which has an evidence problem and is often employed by "mindset grifters" to move product. I'm not saying that Dr. K is one of those grifters, but I'm concerned that his employment of it might "soften up" viewers to that kind of logic. So that when an actual grifter employs it, the person would be more receptive to being scammed.
But even so, I still want to stress that I think there's a lot of good in his content and I think offering as much free content as he does is a public service.
Edit: sorry, i forgot to tie this back to your comment. He often in his earlier videos tied back those evolutionary psychology examples to concepts in Vedic philosophy and meditation. I think that could be dangerous for the reasons above, with the added issue of tying evidence-based science to things that can't be evidenced (like someone having a certain tendency present in Vedic thought). I have the same objections to that as I would astrology. But of course if people find either of those things helpful to their mental health journey, more power to them.
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"I think my phone is more interesting than gardenwork"
Bro that's ADHD!
"I sometimes forget where i put my keys"
That's ADHD for sure you should get meds
On ADHD-TikTok everything is ADHD
I was about to comment something rude, until I read the last line.
I feel like it was pretty obviously taking the piss regardless.
This is like telling a crack head that there is an awesome support group for addiction in this dilapidated crack house down the street.
That's precisely my reaction. Shorts is like damn crack. I look up after two hours, "Shit, I have to get up in a couple hours"
The only "resources" on tiktok that might actually help, are just videos of users giving the viewer general words of affirmation and support. And it's not gonna fix you; it would just boost your mood a little and maybe get you out of a slump.
People do that shit with YouTube too.
Me: "I'm looking for resources on this technology."
Them: "Here watch this 1 hour YouTube video from a random influencer who you can trust. Just ignore his ads to buy crypto."
Or stuff like
Me- mentions in passing that I have a chronic illness
Them- watch this 2 hour rambling video about a completely different condition and you'll be cured
Me- no, that would be like telling a paraplegic to watch a video about diabetes and then they'll no longer be paralyzed
Them- I was just trying to help, you just want to be in pain for the pity party
Yes! Why is it like this? I hate when people tell me to watch some video essay on a disorder - like why the fuck am I listening to some random person on youtube with no credibility??
Me: "I've gotten so bad at retaining focus when watching a video that it's sometimes difficult to even finish songs"
Them: "this 3 hour lecture by Professor Bland and this 5 hour Fortnite stream session from Immortal Wombat have some good tips!"
TikTok does have a ton of misinformation, projections of learned helplessness, and recommendations of pseudoscience/under-studied treatments; but if you are a TikToker and really want to get ADHD tips there, here are a few users I've found that actually seem to know what they're talking about:
- HowToADHD (Jessica McCabe)
- The_ADHD_Nutritionist (Marley Alex)
- ADHDVision
- ADHD_Coach_Ryan (ADHD Coach Ryan Mayer)
Though even with them, take what they say with a grain of salt, do your homework, and talk to your doctor/therapist/executive function coach before implementing stuff that may impact your wellbeing. Also, be mindful of recommendations that are also paid sponsorships.
I follow a couple more, personally, but I don't feel comfortable recommending them because their suggestions and the information they provide can be a bit dubious at times.
i hate how people have to dance around giving proper tips with so much occluded tiptoey bullshit language. who talks to their doctor like it's a normal thing
It's about personal responsibility. I'm not an expert, and I'm not going to pretend to be--especially when it comes to someone's health. I feel like it's important to make an effort to avoid misleading anyone.
It's also a good idea to talk to your doctor when you have quetions. I've consulted my doctor about supplements, water intake, and all kinds of seemingly innocuous things. When it comes to my ADHD, I talk to my care team regularly about the stuff I'm doing/not doing.
Do you live in the US? How can you afford to talk to a doctor about drinking water?
And, I confess, what exactly is so mysterious and/or dangerous about drinking water that you can't just read about it on Wikipedia?
I mean, I don't make an appointment for all of that, I just send an email. My doctor is cool with it if I email them non-urgent questions and they will just get back to me when they can. I don't do it often, but every once in a while if I have a question or concern about my health, I just send off a quick email.
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Yeah, sounds like a rich person thing and I'm not even American lol
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Why would anyone trust tik tok ad a source for ANY information at all?! That’s like watching the Sifl and silly episode where they dance to the Du Hast video to learn German.
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Wow, "have you tried surrendering your decision making to this algorithm?"
As terrible as tiktok can be, it is literally the place that showed me I have adhd... later confirmed by profesionals once I knew to ask. Had I not dabbled on tiktok during the pandemic, I'd probably still be wondering what's wrong with me... not that I'm saying adhd is "wrong", just that for 40 years, I always knew I wasn't neuro-typical and couldn't function the same as others without having any answers as to why. I would frequently fall into a debilitating spiral of self-loathing and mental abuse, convinced that I was somehow at fault. Finally, having an answer has helped immensely, and unfortunately, I have tiktok to thank for this.
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I love "misinformation vortex". Too true
Thank you! I'm on The struggle bus as is, I'm not trying to put a brick on the gas pedal.
idk why but i never got tiktok. the all-powerful mystical algorithm that hijacks your brain just didn't work on me. it's all politics bullshit and lame facebook memes.
hell, the fedi (both lemmy and the microblog-verse) has "wasted" more of my lifespan overall than tiktok.
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I prefer this misinformation vortex
I'm honestly amazed that I haven't succumbed and downloaded it.
I accidentally got sucked into YouTube shorts which is basically the same thing. Be careful out there.
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i know people love to shit on tiktok and a lot of it is fucking garbage, but there's also little nuggets of incredible gold on there. i've gotten so many game changing little hacks from there
PLUS what makes it really unique imo is how immersive video is -- it allows for so much more frank discussion and normalization of mental illness when you can see the person and hear their voice. i've personally found so many great videos on like adult loneliness and coping with being alone -- and it's so wonderful to experience, seeing real, normal looking people going thru it with you, instead of the implication everyone is a sad loser gaming in the dark or whatever
@_number8_ @db0 there are nuggets but you’ve got to wade through so much garbage to find it. By garbage I mean that crap you didn’t ask for and the people that think they have helpful #ADHD information, but they don’t. By my own fault, I use it as a dopamine slot machine at night and can lose 3 hours like nothing. So I had to take it off my phone.
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