Stop complaining and start focussing on solutions instead of problems.
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I did thousands and thousands of out loud verbal affirmations until i learned to love myself limitlessly. It's a wonderful feeling!
I'm really glad you found something that works so well for you! Self-love is indeed wonderful. For others reading who might want to try affirmations, it's worth noting that research has found they affect different people differently. What helps one person might not help another, or could even decrease mood in some cases, especially if the affirmations don't feel authentic to where someone is in their journey.
If you're curious about building self-love, you might want to experiment mindfully with different approaches to find what resonates for you personally - whether that's self-compassion practices, ACT, gradual behavior change, or other methods. Pay attention to how different practices actually make you feel rather than how you think they 'should' make you feel.
Good addendum. I worked with a trauma therapist for years and loathed myself so much I would burst into tears when i saw myself in the mirror. after adding in limitless self love affirmations under their guidance my entire life changed for the better. I also was really afraid of needles and would cry during vaccinations but adding in that I'm brave and not afraid of needles took care of that as well. I'm quite suggestible and my brain responds super well to a couple months of daily repetition!
After reading that study I also pursued my affirmations much differently than it describes, taking cues from marketing and self hypnosis methods. Always verbal, while my executive network was distracted and always in the third person. so i don't say 'I'm lovable' I repeat variations like 'have you heard about digitaldruid? She loves herself limitlessly! Oh yeah, I years she is really brave and not afraid of needles at all!'. for me this is extremely effective and my therapist is thrilled with my results because I tried a lot of meds to no avail.
Journaling and meditating.
This sums it up for me too.
Without hesitation it’s making my bed in the morning. This video inspired me to this https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zSg5yT0dJWk
I wish I could remember what my motivation for it was but it was certainly the most beneficial thing I'd ever done, until I found out about "un-making" your bed. If you're not changing your sheets every day, and let's be real no ones got time for that, it is more beneficial to pull your sheets off and let them air out for the day.
But goddamn that video might make me want to change my mind again.
Gaining just a little bit of control over my thoughts about myself
Listening to audiobooks to fall asleep. I've had insomnia forever and it helps better than anything else I've tried.
Started a savings account. Used to be what I had in my wallet was my life's savings, didn't think I earned enough to accumulate anything. I was wrong
taking vitamins, drinking green tea, daily 30 minuet walk and trying to learn something new each day even if its something small.
I quit drinking for a while there and when I did I picked up this peculiar habit of drinking tons of soda water. Still do it to this day. Love my tiny bubbles.
FYI Soda water is still highly acidic and will therefore erode your enamel on your teeth.
I know a lot of people don’t believe in it, but fluoridated water is a proven way to combat this. If you drink a bit of water after a glass of soda water, it will protect your teeth against the acidity of the soda water.
PS: I’m not interested in debating anti-science idiots on this matter. You don’t need to listen to this advice, if you don’t want to.
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Every week I write my weight on the giant whiteboard in the kitchen. I don't erase it, just keep the log running all year long, for anyone to see. It's an amazing motivator.