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It only pushes away the "potential allies" who are unwilling to do anything to help queer people. Who aren't allies.

You're right, it sucks being told how you can and can't identify. The purpose of the post seems to be to motivate allies to take more action to help. But I agree that the phrasing is problematic.

Just keep being supportive of LGBT people in real life and ignore random memes online. I consider wearing a pin as an action that qualifies as an ally. It's looking like LGBT people might need more help than just a pin with the way governments are heading.

Also if you are dealing with people online, consider that they may be bots or trolls who may not even be LGBT purposely attempting to cause division.

Just keep wearing that pin, speak out against hate and maybe chill the fuck out?

The point is - if it's for your sister... Ask your sister.

The feeling of "What am I supposed to do?" is totally natural, and something you have in common with a lot of queer people. The simple answer is "Your best".

If the pin helps your sister, then you've earned the title of ally. Does it?

Entering an alliance with someone requires their consent. You can't just declare you're allies with France, you have to go talk to a French diplomat first. If you don't, then you're free to help France, but France won't protect you from invaders. If you declare that you're allied with France without asking them, they might go tell the international community that you're a liar. That would be a reasonable thing for France to do.

Fortunately, being an ally to queer people is much easier than being an ally of France. Drag is sure you can manage it if you present a strong enough ambassadorial case.

You get to choose if you're an ally through your actions. If you already do good things to help queer people, then this post has nothing to do with you. The only reason for you to be worried by this post is if you don't think you've done enough. Is that what's going on here?

I pretty much never, ever post, but you're a real piece of shit. You're acting as if anyone who isn't your idea of marginalized isn't worthy of their own feelings and definitely not worthy of anyone else's. You're worse than the people you're attacking in this thread and your words and actions will do nothing but move people who may be on the fence regarding their feelings about marginalized groups in a worse direction.

Or you're a troll. Either way, huuuuge piece of shit.

Ask drag as many questions as you like. Drag will answer in good faith, and if you say something that makes drag uncomfortable, drag will be specific and explain why drag is uncomfortable.

Most other trans people aren't going to be patient with you, because you opened this conversation by assuming hostility from them. They'd rather answer the questions of someone who asks from a neutral or agreeable starting position. Drag will answer your questions anyway.

Cis is a prefix, not an acronym, you don’t have to all caps it. And if you weren’t cis then you wouldn’t be an ally, you’d be part of the community; allies are cis by definition.

Try to understand that for most trans people, they encounter a shit ton of dishonest “questions” that are actually just ways for people to be transphobic . If 9 people punch you in the face after saying “knock knock,” you’d be telling the next person that says “knock knock” to fuck off, too.

There is also a non-zero chance that whatever you’re asking is a right wing talking point you’ve absorbed after it’s been laundered through various dog whistles. Which isn’t a personal flaw, right wing shit is prioritized by algorithms and media. Even trans people have to unlearn a lot of this shit. It’s even possible you just independently came up with similar phrasing or reasoning without realizing it had associations with right wing shit. But trans people just seeing your comment in isolation can’t know that.

Given the unprecedented existential threats to trans people going on right now in the US (likely where most of these people you’re talking to are from), maybe extend a little grace. On top of the general trauma of living as a scapegoat minority, many are losing or may soon lose health care and other rights. Expecting people to behave perfectly in the face of that is unrealistic.

I’m not saying don’t feel however you feel about it when someone blows up at you, just recognize the context of it.