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[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 6 hours ago

0 through 5 (both 0 and 1 because so tired).

[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

None of them really fit me. Do I need to hand in my transfem card? :P

[–] Blazingtransfem98@discuss.online 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I think I'm the sad one, I wish I passed better. I pass alright from what people say but my voice doesn't. I've tried voice training but no matter what I still sound like a man (I asked outside opinions, people without seeing me said my voice sounded masculine). I wish I could get voice fem surgery so I could pass better, also bottom surgery since I hate those parts so much (not as much as I did before estrogen shriveled them up, but I still wish I didn't have things sticking out down below).

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My advice for voice training is to make it fun. I could not get myself to do it until I started singing along to music in the car. I kept adding on techniques until I mastered all of them, but eventually, I needed to stop singing fem and start talking fem 100% of the time. If I didn't have fun doing it, I never would have made progress.

I have tried, I've tried for years. My voice is just too deep for it to sound feminine no matter how I speak, and it's not to say that I haven't been trying. I won't deny that I sound slightly more feminine than I did before but it still doesn't pass. Some people tell me it does but I do know they're only saying it to be nice, because anyone else will greet me as miss or ma'am when they see me but then change to sir when they hear me speak, even if I'm speaking fem.

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

wow this really is some free engagement bait.. woah

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 15 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

True, but you can also just consider which ones fit you. For me:

Eepy transfem: Absolutely, especially since I ran out of ADHD meds πŸ₯²

Gamer: Used to, but can't(damn you ADHD!)

Sad transfem: Yes, but to an reasonable degree given the circumstances

Programmer: Somehow, no

Umm: A bit, as a treat :3

Artist: Yes. My dumbass even wants to write music right now πŸ™„

Really sad transfem: No! The horrors persist and so must I 😀

Buff transfem: I'm fine with noodle arms, but I really need to bake cake 😩

Tank enthusiast:

now I really want to hear a song of yours

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago

NOOOO now I have 8 likes!
now i have to be either buff or a tank person...

[–] Isabella@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago

I don't understand so I chose 0-1 eep!

[–] Arkhive@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I’m at least 4 of these lol, no shot I could narrow it down from there.

Also as a programmer transfem I’m obligated to say, β€œit’s arch btw” might want to tweak the logo on that laptop lol.

Good meme XD

Thank ShaveYourEyebrows!

[–] socialpankakemix@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

as I type this my eyes are refusing to stay open how did you know?

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

That's very artistic of you

you misspelled autistic

[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 11 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Coincidentally, I actually have some programming and artistic skill too, I just don't do it very often which is why I didn't include them lol.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago

Same here for 1,2,5,7 😚

[–] WeLoveCastingSpellz@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

I got sad transfem, peobably true

[–] 0x2640@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

guess we'll list out ours

1: zzzzzz

2: used to but depression :3

3: :c

4: we use nixos btw

5: awwwrrrufff!!!

6: no

7: :c

8: no

9: no

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 6 hours ago

Oof, I feel that on 2... I haven't been able to actually play a game in weeks. I just feel guilty that I should be doing something productive instead and I can't enjoy it.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I assume they belong in /c/transmemes, but I bet nobody cares πŸ˜†

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Memes and other image content are allowed here!

thanks for the clarification! ❀️

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I figured since it was a transfem specific meme, here would work better.

this community is also larger / more frequented - so good call all around

  1. Absolutely, am always eepy :3
  2. I do a tad bit of gayming
  3. Me :(
  4. I don't program but I use Alpine and I'm a tech enthusiast
  5. Mrrp :3 (me fr)
  6. I'm slightly artistic and very autistic 7 Me :c
  7. I try
  8. 100% me fr >:3
[–] RIPandTERROR@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)