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Like in 2016 a rising tide of conservatives emboldened by the Republican victory are starting to crop up online. Hate speech and random attacks directed at the trans community in online spaces will continue and most likely grow louder in the coming weeks. For our safety and mental health I encourage everyone to avoid online spaces that are not strictly moderated. Avoid social media where transphobia and misogyny are tolerated. The effect of constact exposure to hate speech is profound and horrific. We need to shelter ourselves from it as much as possible. I know it doesn't sound very brave to say that but its the truth. We need to look after each other of course, but first of all we have to look after ourselves.

Like everyone here I've been through a chaotic mess of emotions over the past couple days. I am furious, heartbroken, terrified, and sick with anxiety. I have picked apart everything thats happened in the past few months and tried to make sense of how this could happen. The hows and whys of it dont matter though. This is the reality we are confronted with and we have to exist within it. There is no use in praying for a different world. There is no use in lamenting the reality as it exists.

Trans people have made it through so many eras of open hostility towards us. Our community is built on the foundations laid by those who came before us. We persevere because of our solidarity, our empathy and our unity. We must now turn our attention to how we can fight back against this system. We must move our focus to how we can persist within a new world. Trans people still need hormones. We need ways out of hostile communities. We need protection and we need security. Our focus must change to how we can provide those things without the help of institutions. We need networks of supportive cisgender people throughout deep red states. We need supply chains for bringing hormones to people who cannot access them. We need communities online oriented around supporting our most vulnerable.

I am committed to this community supporting all of those efforts, and am looking to become personally involved in organizing efforts as time goes on. Channel your anger and your fear into action. Process your feelings together, support each other, and remember that youre not alone. We are not alone. Things aren't okay. They won't suddenly be okay tomorrow. But we can look after our community. We can push back. It's our duty to do so, for trans youth and vulnerable trans people who can't advocate for themselves and are subject to the whims of the system.

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[–] growsomethinggood@reddthat.com 57 points 4 days ago (1 children)

It's already coming to Lemmy even. I'd encourage folks to use the block function liberally. Do not feel bad about removing bigots from your feed, they are not entitled to your time or attention. Even if they whine and complain about bubbles online, you do not need to see their hate to know that it exists.

[–] Mac@mander.xyz 20 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Alternatively, if you're strong-willed and argumentative please continue to call them out.

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 40 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I'm glad I moved to this instance from Reddit, it's a lot nicer here and I know you guys will protect us much better 🫂

[–] grubbyweasel@sh.itjust.works 7 points 4 days ago (1 children)

how do i move my lemmy account here

[–] veroxii@aussie.zone 21 points 4 days ago

Unfortunately the best you can do at the moment is export your settings, create a new account and import the settings.

Actually moving an account is impossible because of the federated nature: https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy/issues/1985

Federation has many benefits but this is one of the disadvantages.

However most mobile clients allow you to use multiple accounts at the same time. So I would suggest simply creating a second one and progressively start using the new one more and more until it's your new main account.

Plus it's kinda nice to have a backup account in case something happens to your home instance.

[–] Keeponstalin@lemmy.world 24 points 4 days ago

I hope all of y'all can stay safe. We all need community, organization, and empathy to protect each other from right-wing bigotry and hostility. Intolerance should not be tolerated

[–] JPAKx4@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Please use E2EE when possible, such as Matrix or Signal. Privacy will be the best protection.

[–] hitmyspot@aussie.zone 12 points 4 days ago

As a cis male, I would also say to be visible when safe to do so in online and real-world spaces. Normalisation of the lgb part of LGBT has led to a big reduction in animosity and more open living. Hiding and being anonymous are two different things. Above all, staying safe is most important. The safest thing is still the advancement of trans rights and human rights, which although we're in a step back right now is often two forward, one back. So there is hope, too.

[–] mjsaber@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 days ago

If anyone has contacts for mutual aid and relocation, please contact me. I have contacts in Minnesota and Illinois and I want to help get people to safer areas, if possible.

[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 days ago

Building? It has been around for a long time, especially to poc.