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[–] Fuad@lemmy.ml 11 points 1 day ago

I don’t feel too late to learn anything so far.

[–] gasgiant@lemmy.ml 83 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The sunk cost fallacy is a very easy way to get stuck being miserable.

Sometimes a drastic change might be painful at the time but will be much better for you overall.

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[–] Melobol@lemmy.ml 105 points 2 days ago (2 children)

The thing that comes only with age is: to not give a fuck.

When we learn that it doesn't matter we can all be little old people who are purple mohawk headed, wearing clashing neon adidas jumpsuit with zebra primted boas.

[–] ChihuahuaOfDoom@lemmy.world 41 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I only learned this a few weeks ago at 40 years old, now my hair is blue, both my ears are pierced and I'm a lot happier. I told my 19 year old daughter that "what will people think?" has been my mantra, now it's "fuck 'em"

[–] mjhelto@lemm.ee 3 points 1 day ago

Hey, I'm you and you're me! I also just turned 40 in late September. Happy belated birthday, ya old fart!

[–] foggy@lemmy.world 36 points 2 days ago (1 children)

"at 20, you care the world what everyone thinks of you

At 40 you learn to not care what anyone thinks of you

At 60, you realize nobody has been thinking about you at all, the whole time."

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[–] actually@lemmy.world 66 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Brushing teeth regularly, and flossing , is more important than I ever realized.

[–] sunbeam60@lemmy.one 12 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Man good dental hygiene is one of those things you just do not think about until you’re older. Flossing, interdental, mouth wash (before brushing), regularly visiting the hygienist and dentist. Your teeth evolved to last 35-ish years, the rest only happens from hygiene.

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[–] meekah@lemmy.world 25 points 2 days ago (5 children)

I'm dreading the day my bad mouth hygiene will catch up to me... I know how bad it is but I still can't get myself to brush every night.

[–] OADINC@feddit.nl 5 points 1 day ago

I was like you, the transition was not easy, but what helped me was to brush my teeth when I already went to the bathroom to pee. This meant that I rarely brush my teeth at the same time. But I do it every night now. This also helped me reduce my snacking after 20:00. Because I didn't want to snack after brushing my teeth. I convinced myself I was going to do this and ever since I only missed 2 nights. What also helped is using a tracking app where I could check it to "gameify" it.

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[–] Volkditty@lemmy.world 85 points 2 days ago (4 children)

To just invest in broad index funds instead of trying to play the stock market.

Bogleheads

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[–] Asafum@feddit.nl 42 points 2 days ago (2 children)

I was never going to "find myself" and so I should have just gone to college with my friends for computer science and made the good money when jobs were easier to get even though I had no interest at all in it. Hindsight is 20/20 and all that jazz. Now I'm a worthless schmuck in a factory living in someone's garage paying their mortgage in rent prices.

All my interests are hobbies, some of them even too expensive for me to do lol they're nothing you can monetize.

[–] digdilem@lemmy.ml 23 points 1 day ago

All my interests are hobbies, some of them even too expensive for me to do lol they’re nothing you can monetize.

Work is for making money, hobbies are for spending money. I think a lot of people mix that up and lose their enjoyment; money changes your perspective on why you're doing something.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 17 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Take heart: had you done comp sci just for the money, you'd be where you are now. Comp sci isn't for people in for the money but for people who find it exciting and have no idea their career is timesheets. :-p

No, really: I saw a LOT of people flame out of the programme, and most of them admitted they were in it for the payday.

[–] flubba86@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

That's so true. I studied Ba. Information Technology for two years in 2004-2005 and dropped out due to family reasons, then I went back 10 years later and did Ba. Software Engineering in 2013-2016.

In both instances, it was clear about half those enrolled in the programme were only in it for the money, you could tell that some people were just not excited about software. They were the ones who had dropped out by the end of first year.

The other lot were those who did find it exciting, but severely underestimated the difficulty of the discipline. These were the kind of people who have can edit game config files to add a bunch of mods to Skyrim, they consider themselves a tech wiz want to study to be a game developer. But they barely pass intro to Web programming with html and JS in the first year and fail the first oracle database course in second year. I had some good friends who failed out hard in second year of software engineering for that reason.

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[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 30 points 1 day ago (2 children)

You can just ask people out. You can just ask to kiss someone. I was in my mid 20s when someone told me the first one, and late 20s when someone told me the second one. Dating got a lot easier after each revelation.

[–] EddoWagt@feddit.nl 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You can just ask people out.

I know I can, but you think I dare do that?

[–] OADINC@feddit.nl 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

You do it like this: Hey wanna go for a Japan trip with me?

[–] flubba86@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I agree with your comment in general, but it does depend entirely on the context and the situation. Eg, at work, you can't just ask someone out. That's a sure fire way to end up in front of HR.

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 10 points 1 day ago

Right, and you shouldn't ask a married monogamous person out on a date, either. Never came up for me but is worth keeping in mind! A lot of guys seem to struggle with "she likes me bro she smiled at me" -> "my guy she's the cashier at work she has to smile at customers."

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[–] HurlingDurling@lemmy.world 11 points 1 day ago

How to properly manage a budget and how do credit cards work

[–] JustAnOrdinaryCreep@lemmy.ml 36 points 2 days ago (2 children)

That it doesn't matter what other people think of me as long as I'm happy.

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Relationships can be anything you want them to be. I wish I spent less time trying to figure out if someone liked me and just tried to have fun with everyone I met.

[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

That I am a girl

[–] johsny@lemmy.world 27 points 2 days ago

Compound interest.

[–] ImplyingImplications@lemmy.ca 50 points 2 days ago (2 children)

"Fake it till you make it" doesn't mean pretend to be happy until you are happy. I committed to a relationship I wasn't happy in, a career I wasn't happy in, and hobbies I wasn't happy doing, all because I wanted the approval of others. A divorce, career change, and hobby swap made me much happier.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 2 points 1 day ago

Yeah, it's about projecting confidence when you want something and you're intimidated by it.

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 32 points 2 days ago

Yeah, fake it till you make it only applies to overcoming self doubt, and should not be used to dismiss glaring problems. It certaibly doesn't work as a cure all for actual problems.

It can in rare cases work for happiness, but only if the reason is one that is just based on self doubt while things are actually going well.

[–] KingGordon@lemmy.world 32 points 2 days ago (5 children)

At 50 I learned I’d been tying my shoes wrong my entire life.

https://www.fieggen.com/shoelace/grannyknot.htm

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[–] Hayduke@lemmy.world 25 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Manage your finances. Know where every penny goes. Budget as best as you can - plan for all of the things you know you spend money on through a year. It doesn't mean you can't spend money on things you like, but it does mean that you know when you can afford it. It gives you confidence and control no matter how much you are making.

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