My wife and my buddy who is bi insist that I cannot have normal conversations with other dudes at the alleged gay bar we like to visit sometimes. They say that I am invariably being hit on, but I don't notice anything like that.
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I was told that i'm gay because my SSN ends with 1369. Ohh and also was told i'm gay because my mother's maiden name is Gaylord. Where do people come up with these rules???
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Haven't heard "gay" as a pejorative in real life since high school in the late 90s.
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Surprised no one has posted "use a straw" yet. That's definitely one of the more common ones . Weird as shit.
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Well it was only twice in the 20+ years I've been going to bars, and I don't shy away from a gay bar.
Depends on the bar, but gay bars can actually be pretty chill. Everyone there was really nice and the atmosphere is fun.
The first time we went in, we were super awkward, and a nice older guy saw us standing in the doorway and kinda scooped us up and showed us around the place (coat check, pool/games area, etc). It gave us the warm fuzzies. :)
Both my SO and I aren't straight, but people are pretty respectful and nice at that bar, and I wouldn't feel unwelcome even if I was batting for the other team.
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