Mildly Infuriating

You're a good host, sorry to hear this

This is why I always eat all the food I can at a party. Everyone else is being too polite and someone's gotta eat all that food.

That feel when your homies are all on ozempic.

(Sorry brother, I would have consumed a healthy amount had I been there. I am on ozempic now so depending on when my shot was my performance is no longer guaranteed)

Keep trying my friend! I would have been moved out of there with a wheelbarrow.

Damn them wangs look good.....

They wouldna survived intact

I am sorry this was your experience, it’s an awesome and tasty spread, I would have loved to have been invited and would have eaten a lot of it haha

That said, I think some times disappointments like this happen because there’s some mismatch in people’s expectations of an event

I find that sometimes it also helps to let people know in advance that there will be food so they don’t eat beforehand. Sorry if you already mentioned this in the thread somewhere. I hope you make some more friends, but no need to officially break things off with anyone from this event. Just cool it with them for awhile I guess

The foods looks delicious. I would have been glad even if wrestling is not my cup of tea.

What you did for your friends was great. I would have absolutely appreciated you doing this if you were my friend and invited me. That said, one of the things I've noticed after covid is that a lot of people are already going to go home after gatherings. Getting baked/drinking might be an issue with that. Were your friends driving by chance?

It always sucks when this sort of thing happens. Sorry man.

I don't know if that makes you feel better, but for my 40th birthday I invited 20 people, prepared accordingly, and 3 showed up.
Not even my wife was there, cause she ate too much of the dough for the weed brownies she had made for the occasion.
She crashed half an hour before the guests showed up.

We sat around the table, emptied a couple bags of chips, I was the only one who drank beer. My friends left after 2 hours.

I'm sorry this happened but if it makes you feel better, I'd totally love to come over there and chow down on all of that stuff.

I got you bro.

I operate a hiking Meetup and a climbing Meetup.

The climbing Meetup I'm watching as a single member is slowly hijacking it

The hiking Meetup I put in so much work and its so intermittent.

The people who do join love it, I have great reviews and basically perfect scores, but just seems like everyone has better things to do

Screw 'en

spread + AEW sounds like a great time OP I think its possible that your friends are not pro-level friends but maybe something else is amiss?

• live in ohio
• not good at video games
• only know 4 girls, all have same name
• the guys were all white dudes with beard + glasses, couldn't tell each other apart
• invited mean guy

if not one of those try getting pro friends

My fucking guy, you had free trees and booze and they still didn't show up?

Are you sure they're your friends?

I never understand posts like this. Someone could ask me to split a six piece nugget and I'm there. Sorry that you went through that, but it looks wonderful, and very thoughtful. They don't deserve you ❤️

Is that a tip jar on the table? Even if not, just the association is enough for people to feel like they have to contribute financially for the food. While that isn't an outrageous thought, for people who are tight on their finances, it might be an uncomfortable situation where they'd rather skip on the food than take it and not pay a share.

That's still way too much food even if everyone came. And everyone never comes.

I don't really like wrestling but I like parties and that food that you made. Invite me next time. I'll make sure your food gets eaten.

this is actually sad :(

Two things:

• Did your friends know you were going to have a bunch of food and they were expected to eat it?
• Was your party at a time that people normally eat?

I find that if it's too early/late or if you didn't tell them what was expected, your results are suboptimal. Could just be your friends, though.

Communication is key, and you seem to be struggling in that department.

Shit. Can you invite me next time?

Ugh sorry bro.

But this reminds me of that reddit post from forever ago about the same thing. Cups, drinks, food. Nobody showed

There's a tough lesson I learned about trying to get my friends into board games: It's easier to turn gamers into your friends than it is to turn your friends into gamers. I've learned that some of my friends are never going to share my interests as much as I'd like, but that just means I needed to find people who were already in whatever hobby and start hanging out with them and some of them will eventually be your real friends.

Making and keeping friends as an adult is way more difficult than it seems it should be, but it's a painful reality.

You need better friends. No, seriously, you do.

I feel your pain.

Years ago I threw a party for work friends and acquaintances where I had 30 confirmed and 10 tentative (from calendar invite). I bought a variety of drinks (alcoholic and non) and bought/cooked food for about 50 to ensure there was plenty.

... 4 people showed up.

That was the instant that I stopped giving a fuck. Ever since then I've adopted the approach of "I'm going to do something, you can come if you want, but I'm not planning for you". Or, more commonly, I just don't organize anything :)

EDIT: I should note that this was a recurring yearly party that got bigger and bigger over 5 years until it just died. Pre COVID.