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Let's hear some stories from the thready-verse about how you guys met your significant other.

For me it was during the first year of COVID, my company asked who from Europe (I was living in Sweden) wanted to go for a three month business trip to coach a big Korean automotive supplier on how to do modern software development. Most of the other people had families and especially during COVID nobody wanted to travel. I said I could do it, even though I never coached before. But because nobody else volunteered they sent me and and another guy who also was single without a family, etc.

I was convinced that the other guy would have good game with the women here, and thought that there is no harm in installing some international dating app and to try my own luck. During COVID I just lost a ton of weight and found new confidence and it was far away from home and what happens in Korea stays in Korea and so on :D

Anyway, to my surprise during the first two weeks I got some matches and I hit it off with one of them. We met and started dating and very quickly fell for each other. Then when the 3 months were over, I asked the company if the customer would still have some use for my skills and they said yes and send me for 3 more months. I had to go back to Sweden to get a new Visa and spent another 2 weeks in quarantine (as the first time). But then the second tree months were over too and I asked again for more. By that time I was really sick of all the time in quarantine and asked if they could move me from the Swedish office to the Korean office and they agreed.

I went back to Sweden, threw away most of my stuff and put the most valuable things up on a friends attic and moved to Korea with one suitcase. I stayed at AirBnB's for two more months and then we found an apartment and moved in together.

She has a daughter from a previous marriage and we now have a 1.5 year old son together and we still live in Korea :D

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[–] ndupont@lemmy.world 9 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Best friend of a girl I met through online dating, who insisted that the two of us had to meet. Long story short she quickly moved in 14 years ago and we got 2 kids quite quickly as well.

[–] Nemo@midwest.social 9 points 3 months ago

We were the only two people at a concert that weren't part of the local arts scene, and this the only two who didn't know anybody. I saw her alone and started talking to her. I was just trying to bum a cigarette, but she had other ideas.

[–] EatATaco@lemm.ee 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)

First day of my sophomore year of college, my roommate comes back to the room with two smoking hot girls and was like "they want to smoke pot with us."

I thought "damn good job!"

25 years later I'm married to one of those "girls" and we have two beautiful sons together.

[–] pumpkinseedoil@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)
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[–] tiredofsametab@kbin.run 8 points 3 months ago

A buddy wanted to play board games and there was a shop not far from where I lived with a lot of them, including some in English (I live in Japan, Tokyo at the time). We played games and I wanted to introduce him to my favorite bar. The place next to it was also somewhere I went often and had two open seats. We sat down and started talking with some others I didn't know and some regulars. Well, I hit it off with one of those people I didn't know and we've now been married almost 3 years. I wasn't actually looking for anything at the time, having more-or-less given up on the whole dating thing after a couple of relationships (mostly looking on LTR/marriage-focused apps here). So, basically, very lucky.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 8 points 3 months ago

That's the neat part, I didn't.

[–] irish_link@lemmy.world 8 points 3 months ago

In a bar instead of online like NORMAL PEOPLE.

All jokes and sarcasm aside, I met my wife in a bar as her and her friend were trying to avoid a guy who seemed to be bothering them. Offered to buy the all a round of drinks and said we are at a table over in the corner if they wanted to join. My future wife and her friend said yeah lets go the guy had a sour look on his face and said no thanks but I will take the beer.

Had a wonderfully late night talking and laughing with her and fell in love shortly after.

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 8 points 3 months ago

When local gaming stores were a thing here, I met him while playing some rpgs.

We then went to see Beowulf in theaters where it was me, him, and one guy waaaaay in the back we joked was just there for the tit scenes.

We talked the entire movie (making fun of it), sorry single other guy there!

[–] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 7 points 3 months ago (8 children)

Made a friend in Final Fantasy XIV, which then blossomed into more. She moved across the country to be with me. We are one of those super-affectionate-joined-at-the-hip couples.

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[–] dwemthy@lemdro.id 7 points 3 months ago

A friend of my roommate at the time brought my now-wife to a New Year's Eve party we were throwing. Her "friends" had made plans without her to go to a concert and deliberately kept it from her until tickets were sold out. She was all set to have a sad evening at home but my roommates friend made her come with to the party. We hit it off immediately

[–] gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 3 months ago (12 children)

She sat in front of me in college English

Guy sitting next to her was trying so hard to understand FFXIV to get in her pants and I just slid in with a "X is actually the best don't you even" when she said VII was the best FF

The teacher got involved with our arguments a few weeks later and added in that VI is actually the best, which was fun

She got me to start playing FFXIV, 5 years later COVID happened 1 week before our wedding so we broke up for a year, then got back together and got married in Vegas cuz it was at least open

Still play FFXIV together (DT is terrible though so I might not anymore), still cannot agree on which FF is the best. Though my argument has shifted to a tie between VI & X

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[–] garbagebagel@lemmy.world 6 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

I had two coworkers who were sisters and I got along with decently. Befriended the younger one and one day she invited me to a house party at the place she shared with her brother. Night ended with her yelling through the door "STOP FUCKING MY FRIENDS!" which I still think is hilarious.

Anyway we partied a lot and then settled down later and we've been together for 8 years now so it didn't turn out too badly.

[–] OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

As an aside OP, are you still in Korea?

[–] jeena@piefed.jeena.net 8 points 3 months ago

Yes I am, as the last sentence implies ;)

[–] GreyEyedGhost@lemmy.ca 5 points 3 months ago

So I was between relationships, hanging out with a friend, dropping her off at work when one of her coworkers catches my eye. I ask my friend who she is, and she laughs and says she's in a long-term relationship. I laugh and move on.

Later on, I try to call my friend at her work, and this lady picks up the phone. I'm in a good mood, I flirt with her a bit and hang up once I've gotten the info about my friend.

Months after all that, I'm renting out a room and this friend refers her coworker who just broke up with her boyfriend. She moves in, engages in some rebound activity, and we hang out a bit. I determine I'm interested in her and she's interested in me, but I've been dating someone for a while. This relationship is only a few months old, and it's reminding me of my first marriage. I break it off and have sex with my roommate on what could charitably be called our first date. Within 6 months she stops having her own room.

We proceed to blow past a number of other red flags, and have now been together for about 14 years, married for 7.

I told (and tell) my kids that we did everything wrong in starting a relationship, but it worked out in spite of it

[–] other_cat@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

We both hung out on a Digimon fansite in high school lol

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

She posted song lyrics online from Rush asking if anyone knew who it was.

I replied that I didn't, and was too proud to Google and say that I did. But the meter was close to "Yellow Rose of Texas" so maybe Emily Dickinson?

One thing led to another and we just had our 13th wedding anniversary this year.

[–] toomanypancakes@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

We were in the same circle of friends freshman year of high school and it didn't take long for us to start dating. He moved across the state sophomore year, so we were long distance for a couple years, but he came back for university. We moved in together after graduating, married around four years later, and he's still putting up with me after twenty 😊

[–] steeznson@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

Nightclub dance floor during freshers week... has been 13 years and we're married now lol

[–] sbv@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 months ago

We both volunteered at the same music festival.

I don't really like music.

[–] ArmokGoB@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 3 months ago

I met them on Discord.

[–] HelixDab2@lemm.ee 4 points 3 months ago

OKC, about 2015-ish. I was separated and quickly heading for divorce, and was--at the time--into consensual non-monogamy. I was completely, brutally honest about who I was, and what I was looking for. When I messaged my now spouse, it was only to give them a compliment on something that they were doing in one of their photos, because I knew exactly how challenging it was. I know how the math works out on OKC (and Tinder, and everything else owned by Match.com); I had no expectation that they would see my message in the first place, or that they would even respond. Well. They did see it, and looked at my profile. And apparently decided right on the spot that I was the person that they'd been looking for. We met a few days later, and had a good date; I said that I wasn't sure of the chemistry, but I'd like to see them again. They went home and told their ex-partner that they'd just fallen for a guy and didn't think I liked them.

I had been dating another person for a few years at this point; we'd started out with the understanding that neither of us were going to be monogamous with each other. I had gotten to the point of realizing that non-monogamy didn't give me the depth of relationship that I could get from monogamy, and told them that this was the direction I wanted to go. They wished me well, and said that wasn't where they were.

Shortly after my first date with my now-spouse, this other person texted me and said that they'd changed their mind, and that they wanted to pursue monogamy with me, but it was too late by that point.

My spouse and I got married three days after my divorce decree was finalized, and it's been a little over 8 years. It's not perfect, but it works.

[–] tacosplease@lemmy.world 4 points 3 months ago

She threatened violence upon me when we were first graders.

[–] BigBananaDealer@lemm.ee 4 points 3 months ago

my friends girlfriend brought her friend over and we all played wii bowling

then at another friends birthday party she was there and i followed her around everywhere

now we have been dating almost 4 years 😀

[–] Thorny_Insight@lemm.ee 3 points 3 months ago

Found her profile on Instagram and sent her a DM

[–] grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world 3 points 3 months ago
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[–] HuntressHimbo@lemm.ee 3 points 3 months ago

I was in an EMN relationship when we met on a hookup subreddit. My partner was at the time struggling with an addiction, and forgot our first conversation when I messaged the next day, but I was patient and went back over it with them. My EMN relationship combusted a few months later when my ex forgot the ethical part, and after a few more months of seeing each other more casually, my partner and I became an item. Its been six years now and I still can't believe how lucky I was to be scrolling just the right reddit at just the right time to meet the love of my life.

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