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[–] Chef@sh.itjust.works 164 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Take care of your fucking teeth.

Take care of your fucking teeth.

And once more, for the folks who don’t get it…

Take care of your fucking teeth.

[–] sanguinepar@lemmy.world 49 points 5 months ago (4 children)

This, but also your knees.

Any body part with a double E really.

[–] SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 54 points 5 months ago (3 children)
[–] DeltaTangoLima@reddrefuge.com 18 points 5 months ago

The real value is in the comments

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[–] deranger@sh.itjust.works 21 points 5 months ago (1 children)

In addition, take care of your fucking joints and your hearing. They will never get better, you can only slow the degradation.

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[–] BeefPiano@lemmy.world 102 points 5 months ago (5 children)

Start saving for retirement now. You can make literally millions by putting away 10% of your income early on. Do it automatically so you never even notice the money gone.

If you are worried about making the wrong choice and your company doesn’t have a 401k, open an IRA somewhere (Fidelity if you need someone to make the decision for you) and pick a date targeted fund. Set up auto deposit. Never look at the balance.

You can always make it better later but for now the best thing to do is start. Don’t let analysis paralysis get in the way.

[–] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 43 points 5 months ago (1 children)

If 20 year old me put away 10% of her income, it would just mean borrowing more. Current me would just have more debt and be worse off than now.

[–] Sanctus@lemmy.world 42 points 5 months ago (4 children)

Yeah a lot of people in there twenties can't even spare 5%. I'm thirty and I can't.

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[–] anon6789@lemmy.world 35 points 5 months ago (4 children)

I don't want to come off as insensitive, so I'll try to phrase things carefully.

If you have even the slightest spare money per pay period, like $30, and a 401k or 403b is offered to you, you really need to do it.

That money comes out of your check before taxes, so you will be investing more money than what actually comes out of your check. By deduction 6% of a $15/hr full time job, you're putting in $36, but your paycheck will only go down about $30-free money!

Many places will match you some, say half of that first 6%, so now you're saving $54 while only being out $30. You've almost doubled your money in one week!

Come tax time, you've saved $1872, and you've been given a free $936. It doesn't stop there though, because now you only are paying income tax on $29,328 instead of $31,200. If you get a tax rebate now, you will get even more back!

So now you're saving $2808 a year at age 20. Let's put that in one mutual fund, a SP500 index fund. Over the last 10 years, that has returned 12‰, but let's be conservative and call it 10. If you never make a cent more per hour, by age 65, you will have saved $84,000 and your job has chipped in $42,000, over a year's pay! But with that 10% compound interest, you have $2,000,000! You are a multi-millionaire for $30/wk!

If you get a raise or get a better job in the future, this number can be even higher.

Please keep this in mind. Even if you can't do it now, do it ASAP. Here are the same numbers, but starting at 30 instead of 20.

Still amazing, but seeing this difference is why we older on ones tell you not saving earlier was our big regret.

I hope this was helpful and doesn't get taken as a "pick yourself up by your bootstraps" thing.

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[–] pezmaker@sh.itjust.works 66 points 5 months ago (2 children)

It's easy to believe you're invincible in your twenties. Or "later me can deal with it.". As that later version of me, I'm not a huge fan of that earlier version in a lot of ways. It's fine, I'm who I am for what I went through, and I'm righting the ship. But the more cans you kick down the road, the more you have to deal with later and the harder they are to deal with. Physically, mentally, financially. It's ok to try to live life freely, but definitely be aware of this and consider kicking one less can every chance you get.

[–] Shdwdrgn@mander.xyz 16 points 5 months ago

So much this... Despite trying to drive defensively I have been involved in two major car accidents. The first one I walked away from, but the second one put me on Flight for Life. Despite the accident itself being pretty bad, the only physical issue was a broken leg that took a couple years to heal properly. However the REAL issue took longer to realize -- something from that accident has caused me to have continued sleep issues since then. I'll be on medications the rest of my life probably, and even then I still have trouble getting restful sleep if I've been physically active.

Yeah it's easy to feel invincible when you're young, and your body can heal from a lot, but just remember that those things can also fuck up your shit in ways you might not realize until years later. Things you take for granted now (like sleep) can really screw up your enjoyment of life when they don't work right.

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[–] riskable@programming.dev 57 points 5 months ago

If you're working in the attic, under the house, around dirt/dust/debris wear a mask/respirator. It's so nice to be able to take deep breaths without coughing later in life (and outclass your peers in the stamina department) 👍

Pro tip: Even though they're bigger and bulkier respirators are much more comfy than masks.

[–] Hydra_Fk@reddthat.com 53 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Wear hearing protection. Tinnitus blows.

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[–] Concave1142@lemmy.world 49 points 5 months ago (2 children)

The random aches and pains you start waking up with are here to stay. Learn to embrace them.

And drink more water.

[–] balderdash9@lemmy.zip 14 points 5 months ago (4 children)

Hey you, reading this right now. You just drank water didn't you?

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[–] ohlaph@lemmy.world 43 points 5 months ago
  • Get an exercise routine now and keep it
  • Take care of your teeth
  • Invest in your retirement now
  • Keep your mind sharp
  • Eat right most of the time
[–] sanguinepar@lemmy.world 42 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Spend quality time with your parents (assuming you're on good terms of course).

I lost my dad when I was 30, after a short and unexpected illness, and I regret not spending much more time with him when I could have.

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[–] foggy@lemmy.world 42 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (11 children)

I'm 36.

Do yourself a favor. Dont drink alone.

Sound like a tall order? Work on that. Your liver is important. You'll be alone a lot. You get in that habit now, it'll be with you when you're 40, and your liver will not be a fan.

"Work on that" what do you mean?!? -- you get home from a shit day at work, or you stop at a bar on the way home. You get drunk to numb the calcified agony of the working life. -- that's what I mean. There are other ways to numb thatee less maladaptive, they just take more effort and take affect less quickly. Move toward it for me tak health.

Do you spend hours on the couch scrolling on your phone? Try to go on a 2 mile walk every day. 4 is even better. Your heart will thank you. Your hips, knees and ankles will thank you. Listen to a podcast. You can still binge content, just... Get your body moving. And get your eyes to focus on the horizon every now and then. It's good for your eyesight long term.

Get yourself out of breath, heart racing from pushing yourself physically at least once a week. Preferably nearly every day.

Take up an artistic hobby. Write bad poems. Write bad stories. Write bad songs. Draw dumb cartoons. Draw bad portraits. Sing your best, but sing. Dance.

Stretch.

Brush your teeth twice a day.

Floss.

Do planks.

Side planks too.

Drink water.

You should be able to do 20 pushups.

You should be able to touch your toes.

Sprint as far as you can at least once a month.

Just don't get complacent being complacent.

Invest $1 for every $1 you put in a savings account. Put $1 into a retirement fund for every $1 you put in that savings acct too. Oh, and $1 in a Roth IRA at the same rate.

Got an extra $100? $25 to savings $25 to investing, $25 to Roth, $25 to 401k.

Do that til your savings ~= 6 months living expenses. Then stop that fund and split it 3 ways for investing, retirement, retirement.

Use your investment (and if things go south, savings) for a down payment on a house to minimize your mortgage.

Edit: in debt? Have more than 1 source of debt? Focus on the biggest one. If you can make minimum payments on all and have money leftover it goes to the largest debt/worst interest. Pay em off one at a time til your chins above water.

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[–] Don_alForno@feddit.org 40 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

Wear earplugs at loud concerts and parties and at work if you have a noisy job.

People will make fun about you, but believe me, permanent tinnitus really sucks.

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[–] DadVolante@sh.itjust.works 38 points 5 months ago (4 children)

Travel. Try new things. Eat food you've never tried before.

Get into the habit of reading. Actual books, not just things like lemmy.

Realize that literally every person you meet is a walking story, just like yourself

Brush your fuckin teeth.

Also: Floss. Seriously. Take care of your damn teeth. They're important.

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[–] Macaroni_ninja@lemmy.world 37 points 5 months ago

Smoking, drinking and gambling never ends well. Stay away from addictions.

Don't try to proof how manly you are to your friends/girls. It rarely pays off. Its ok to have a veggie dish at the restaurant instead of a bloody steak. Its ok to not speed with your car to look cool. Its ok to wear whatever the fuck you want as long as you like it, it fits well and its practical for you. Do what you like and be proud of it.

Always save time for your hobbies. Growing up doesn't means you can't have fun. If you are in a relationship make sure your partner gives you enough space and time for yourself.

[–] sunzu@kbin.run 37 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Working hard is for suckers.

Getting paid is what the whole song and dance is about.

[–] DJDarren@thelemmy.club 22 points 5 months ago (4 children)

I’m 43 and gradually coming around to the fact that as long as my managers aren’t actively talking to me about not doing enough, then I’m doing ok. It’s worked wonders for me being anxious that I’m not doing what’s expected of me.

It’s fine to do the bare minimum as long as you’re not fucking things up for your colleagues. You get paid to cover the minimum of your job description, not to work yourself to death.

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[–] altima_neo@lemmy.zip 35 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Moisturize, use sunscreen. Protect your skin and you'll look young even in old age.

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[–] DJDarren@thelemmy.club 34 points 5 months ago

Mine is modest; but practice being mindful of your emotional reactions.

If something upsets you, interrogate why, and whether your reaction will help. 90% of the time it won’t, so learn to appreciate that you are upset, but don’t let it control you. Because if you don’t you’re going to start seeing the world through incredibly negative eyes.

For example, I used to be a nightmare behind the wheel, always getting angry with shitty drivers and red lights. But I began trying to catch those thoughts, and asked myself whether they would stop other drivers being shitty, or whether it would stop me getting caught at red lights. Would I still be angry in ten minutes? The answer is almost always no, so to expend that energy feels like a waste of time to me now.

Sure, I still get pissy, but I don’t sit with it for longer than I need to. You wouldn’t sit in acid, so why sit in anger?

[–] TheBigBrother@lemmy.world 33 points 5 months ago (3 children)

University isn't intended to get A grades, university it's for you to make connections with other people. A grades are good but a good business partner can save you life.

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[–] PiJiNWiNg@sh.itjust.works 31 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Don't push when you shit, hemmorrhoids suck

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[–] superduperpirate@lemmy.world 31 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Don’t rawdog a rando

Wearing a rubber every time unless you’re in a committed relationship greatly reduces your chances of an STD or an unwanted pregnancy.

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[–] JackiesFridge@lemmy.world 31 points 5 months ago

Listening to other people, especially to women, is a skill. Don't spend silent time in a conversation waiting for your chance to speak or be smart or witty, stay quiet and really process what you're hearing. Imagine yourself in their situation. Accept that what they say is exactly how they feel.

The less time you spend talking, the more your conversational partner will tell you, and the more you will start to understand them, their lives, their goals, and their anxieties.

Knowing and understanding other peoples' experiences will help you not only make better decisions in your own life, but understand why other people act and think the way they do. You'll be less likely to snap-judge or make assumptions about others. And knowing more about your loved ones, co-workers, and neighbours will allow you to help them effectively if they need it.

And travel abroad as much as possible - listen to people from other countries and cultures. The human experience is wildly varied and endlessly fascinating.

[–] PrimeMinisterKeyes@lemmy.world 31 points 5 months ago
  • Don't be afraid of loneliness; don't be afraid of too many people around; don't be afraid of sharing your life with an SO you think you don't really know. As you age, these phases tend to blunt and blend together, like the seasons. The only thing you really have, in the end, is yourself.
  • Adult life is a lot more about compromising than fighting. Don't make other people's life shitty on purpose, neither allow them to make yours shitty.
  • Get your regular medical check-outs.
  • Leave a place if you positively can't stand it any longer, and start from scratch. It'll be okay.
[–] SeaJ@lemm.ee 30 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Use sunscreen and lotion up. That's the best way to prevent looking like an old catcher's mitt by the time you are 40.

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[–] Bob_Robertson_IX@lemmy.world 30 points 5 months ago

The best raise you can get is by changing jobs. Businesses are not going to be loyal to you, there's no benefit to being loyal to them - add either a customer or employee. Embrace and welcome change.

When you get a pay raise immediately increase your 401k (or equivalent retirement fund) by at least 1%.

Enjoy your 20s, they don't last long but the person you are today is who you will feel like you are in 20 years. Don't rush your life. There's plenty of time to get married and have kids. You and your kids will benefit from you having an extra decade of experience before raising another human.

[–] DigitalGemini@sh.itjust.works 26 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Start a yoga practice and keep it up. In 20 years, you’ll thank yourself.

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[–] AdamBomb@lemmy.sdf.org 26 points 5 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (4 children)

Protect your back. Use proper form when lifting heavy weights. I let my back go round while pressing a few hundred pounds on an inverted incline leg press in my 20s, bulged a disk, and ever since my mid 30s it has been my Achilles’ Heel. Goes out without warning. Completely lays me up when it does. Rubbish. Wish I could go back and undo that.

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[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 25 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Learn to trust your gut.

You’ve seen this advice many times and it’s sounded silly every time and so you’ve ignore it.

The advice is, stop ignoring this advice. If you don’t know what it means, ask questions.

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[–] Etterra@lemmy.world 23 points 5 months ago

Beauty is fleeting but crazy bitch is forever. Choose your relationships wisely.

[–] ilinamorato@lemmy.world 21 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I'm 39, but this is mine: do you just feel kinda "blah" all the time, don't enjoy anything including things you used to enjoy, and can't motivate yourself to do anything? That might be depression, and it might also be undiagnosed ADHD. The sooner you learn about that and get help with it, the better you'll feel and the more effective you'll be (and the less you'll let down the people you love).

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[–] MoonMelon@lemmy.ml 20 points 5 months ago (1 children)

When things are great, even small things like a cup of coffee with a friend or a quiet morning, take a minute to say to yourself, "this is really great." Say it out loud. Years later you will realize those moments are as good as it gets, and if you don't mark them they just disappear. Bad moments stick around in your head regardless, but the good ones need to be memorialized.

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[–] BlackRing@midwest.social 20 points 5 months ago

Try to take the time to care for your mental and emotional health when you need to, then, instead of stewing for years and years. I made the mistake of rolling with it, turned 35, and I'm lucky to still be here at 40.

Still struggling. Wish I'd spoken with someone years ago.

[–] jonas@lemmy.world 18 points 5 months ago

Find a way to love yourself, and to enjoy your own company.

[–] geoma@lemmy.ml 18 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Think it very thoroughly if you want kids

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[–] lol_idk@lemmy.ml 17 points 5 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)
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[–] paddirn@lemmy.world 17 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Take care of your back and your teeth, they start hurting like hell the older you get.

[–] MagicShel@programming.dev 14 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

This couldn't be more true. Don't fucking lift that two man lift at work that you can totally do it by yourself because you're young and strong and maybe you've done it a dozen times before. Just don't fucking do it. I'm fucking begging you to learn from my mistake. One time was all it took for me to have a lifetime of problems since my 30's. I know the exact moment I ruined my back. 30 years later I can remember how that pop felt. It didn't even hurt bad enough at the time to need time off work. I thought I was still just fine. Ten years later, nope. And now that I'm fifty, everything hurts. It hurts to lay down in bed. It hurts when I get up in the morning. I lifted a 1gal. bottle and was bedridden for a week. My own kids had to watch me spend ten minutes crawling up a flight of stairs to my bed; they were crying and scared that the guy who was their Superman couldn't even stand up. I promise you, it can happen and you're rolling the dice every time you do it.

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[–] Hammocks4All@lemmy.ml 17 points 5 months ago

mid 30s guy also learning from most of these comments

[–] Jarix@lemmy.world 16 points 5 months ago (8 children)

Start saving some of your money. Whatever you can but have damned restraint and dont spend it

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[–] Vaggumon@lemm.ee 16 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Drink more water, listen to your body, don't give more to someone then they give to you, respect yourself, and your time.

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[–] daq@lemmy.sdf.org 16 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Take care of your health in general, but take extra special care of your core. Your back will thank you in 20 years.

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[–] nilaus@lemmy.world 15 points 4 months ago

Have fun, chase your dreams, make sure you always have "fuck you" money for when shit hits the fan, and be kind.

Oh and the sunscreen thing!

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