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which one do you prefer? having kids or no kids? and why?? (lemmy.world)

submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by hungrythirstyhorny@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] CaptPretentious@lemmy.world 14 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I always wanted children. Damn near every major life choice has been fueled by that. Took a job I knew I wouldn't be happy at, but could be successful at to provide a better life. Yhe cars I've bought the safety rating for kids was to priority followed by reliability. The house I bought is within walking distance of every grade school, and the basement could easily be setup for a hangout spot for the teen years, oh and a good sized backyard for playing. One of the reasons I stayed at this job is I'm at max PTO and they actually offer paternity leave! I always make mental notes of fun places for kids so I could take them. When they were younger, and I was still considered cool, my niece and nephew wanted to move in with me 😆.

Just never met the right lady.

[–] OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml 4 points 4 months ago

Oof. Not sure if you're still trying, but maybe try focusing on (improving) yourself with the same dedication?

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

I just wanna say I am sorry that it is near impossible for single dads to adopt kids. I understand the reasoning but want to cry because there are kids who need parents but you can't be the parent to one.