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How do I look? I've been feeling very euphoric with the new clothes but nervous if I pass or not..
But I've at least been feeling super cute lately and I try to push the doubts down. ^-^
Ok you might want to experiment with an air dryer using all the info online. Changed my life.
I wash my hair every day with water, unless I'm lucky and it survived the night. Towel pat it, and don't let it air dry. You'll wanna go through it many times with medium hot hair and then cool again with cold air. Every time bunching it up with that big piece that goes on the dryer. Don't hold it long because hot hair isn't good for hair. Just keep going until its dry.
The idea is that your hair sets when it dries. If you air dry it like that, the weight will pull it down and it'll set like that. That's why you'll wanna go through it and shape it constantly. I go for maximum fluff.
Product-wise let me go ahead and refer you to the curly girl method, which you can find online. You'll especially want to avoid sulfate containing shampoo. One easy way is to go for products that are specifically for curly hair and get the whole line from one company and do what it says on the back.
I wash it with product once it doesn't really play friendly any more. That's after about 7 to 10 days for me. This also allows you to buy more expensive product.
Only brush it when it is wet and use one of those coarse padded brushes. I brush it while under the shower. Doing that daily also helps with reducing hair laying around.
Lastly you'll want to get a water spray bottle. One that really makes tiny droplets. You can use it after air drying or whenever you go outside. Just spray it in and scrunch it up here and there to make it pop. As it dries it'll make it pop even more.
Ohh that's some great advice thank you! I think the main thing I'm doing differently is the drying, I was avoiding a hair dryer unless I really needed it because I thought that can damage hair even if done right but I'll try using it consistently now to see how much of a difference it makes. The spray bottle is genius!
Yes heat can do damage. Personally I focus on managing that. So like when I hit it with medium heat for 1 or 2 seconds I'll leave it and move. And then I'll do a cold pass.
Also when showering you'll want to keep it on warm, not hot. And finish with cold. Also for your skin. Doesn't have to be annoying cold, but just to cool your skin and hair down.
Think of the heat as being stored in it and you have to remove it again, and you don't want to get it too hot.
You might wanna look up some info on that if you really wanna know. This hairdryer was 13 euros and an Airbnb guest bought it because she needed it. She had beautiful long hair.
Note that spray bottles can suck. You'll probably wanna get one from a beauty store.
I'll switch up my routine tomorrow thank you <3
If switch up you shall then switched up you will be.
Look in to a diffuser for your hair dryer
This is why I struggle with my curly hair. My preferred hair care routine is the lazy girl method :P
So I just end up with frizz most of the time.
May the Frizz be with you.