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I don't love this question.
I spent a huge chunk of my life putting so much focus into being "nice" that some friends sremovedd about me being "a doormat".
Also? The word "nice" has so many soft negative connotations in 2024.
Subtext: if you're "nice" you're fundamentally un-interesting Subtext: if you're "nice" you're a push over and ripe to be taken advantage of.
GOOD person? MORAL person? OK.
Nice? Asking anyone to attribute this to themselves is a foot gun.