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What's the best wax-on-wax-off-style advice you've heard that you can attest as being helpful in certain situations? (lemm.ee)

submitted 6 months ago by shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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[–] paddirn@lemmy.world 9 points 6 months ago

My Dad died about 4 years ago now and I still think about him almost daily. It was hard at first, but I’m not sure which I would’ve wanted, for people to have asked about him or to have not asked about him. Part of me wanted to crawl into a hole and not talk to anyone and part of me wanted people to have cared and know about him.

While it’s true you can’t sum up a person with “that’s a nice name,” they’re trying to make conversation, they probably don’t know what you know about him and if you want them to know, you’d need to correct them. My Dad really wasn’t social much throughout his life, so it kind of felt like just nobody cared at all, maybe half a dozen people in total ever really asked anything about him after he passed.