I know queer people, who maybe know some other queer people they're friends with not because they're queer, but there isn't any community, and they're spread across the country, few and far between.

They have no interest in any community. I've tried to organise a thing for us all to meet up, but no one is interested. Everyone needs money, they have phones for making themselves feel better. Most either don't understand politics at all, or much of anything in general.

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Cool, i'll give this a go, see if I can get some kind of trans support group going. Cheers.

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 6 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I fixed my previous post's markdown. It is finicky about whitespace, but hopefully my whole message rendered for you.

Ape together strong is funny, but not an answer.

What is the practical purpose? Safety, solidarity, emotional validation, political might, fun. Off the top of my head. Sorry for the flippant answer before, heh.

I know queer people, who maybe know some other queer people they’re friends with, but there isn’t any community, and they’re spread across the country, few and far between. They have no interest in any community. I’ve tried to organise a thing for us all to meet up, but no one is interested. Everyone needs money, they have phones for making themselves feel better.

Ok I'm not myself queer, just most of my friends are, so I can't authoritatively speak on this topic. I'm going to text some friends and see if they'll humor me by telling me their takes on if queer community exists.

My impression based on the number of explicitly queer events one friend goes to, and the spiraling social network around that, there is definitely community. They go to a lot of trans punk shows, I think. Plus picnics, beach trips, marches, parties, other stuff. I think they want to organize a knitting circle or something too, maybe?

My other friend who answered between me starting this message and now said, when I showed her the part I quoted: "That’s not consistent with my experience".

Thinking about it, I know someone else who runs a queer book club.

[–] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Thank you for such a detailed answer! It's very helpful!

Perhaps it is simply not a thing in this country/area or I don't have the right connections for it as I don't think I've ever heard of a "queer event".

It would be great if I can find such a queer community, as I don't know any other queer person who is aware of such events or communities if they exist, and if not, perhaps I can get to organising them. I've def never heard of a queer punk band, nevermind show, nevermind trans being a thing in the UK sadly, with the current political climate I doubt that's a thing. Seeing other queers IRL and perhaps talking politically with them is exactly what I need.

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 1 points 6 months ago

I'm glad I was helpful to you.

Don't dox yourself, so feel free to not reply or dm me, but what part of the UK are you in? I don't actively know anyone who lives there, but I spent a weekend with someone from Bristol and I'd bet money she was involved in cool queer stuff in her area.

The band Martha ( https://marthadiy.bandcamp.com/album/blisters-in-the-pit-of-my-heart ) are queer and from Durham.

I bet you could use Bandcamp to find music in your area and from that find people. Most bands tag themselves with their city origin, and maybe tag themselves with queer.

[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Cool, i’ll give this a go, see if I can get some kind of trans support group going. Cheers.

One queer friend said this, too:

""" Also you have to account for people being in the closet. Remaining closeted is much less common than it once was, but when I chaired the LGBT caucus at my old job I had closeted members so I had to keep the email list secret and stuff """

[–] LainTrain@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 6 months ago

Thank you (and your friend)! That's a good point!