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Having worked in the industry for 8 years i can give you advice that works but is not recommended.
First, stand your ground, tell her to go fuck herself. Its very aggressive and may get you on some kind of shit list.
Second, follow her example. When she goes to smoke, go with her. You dont have to smoke. If you can, leave with her.
Third, tell customers whose food has been eaten that "it has been eaten by 'employee"' and that youre making a replacement, heres a contact card to management to file a complaint"
If she starts commanding you as a manager, tell her shes has no authority and to do it herself, then follow her cuz shes likely gonna go take a break.
Cause problems
If "Go fuck yourself" is not your style or otherwise inadvisable, then another option is to start with "You will not call me that. You will call me by my name. Thank you." Say this as calmly and evenly as you can. Keep saying it. Don't let her rattle you into straying from this.
If she insists, then pick a name to call her and insist on it no matter how much she objects. I doubt I need to suggest such a name, but rather I trust you to engage your creativity.
Even so, I don't have any objection to "go fuck yourself" if you think that wouldn't put your job in jeopardy.
Good luck. Peace.
Say it for hours if thatβs what it takes