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[–] ramble81@lemm.ee 22 points 7 months ago (4 children)

Unfortunately there’s a lot of men who refuse to go down on a woman so never see it. Coupled with “I got my dick wet, don’t care”

[–] Speculater@lemmy.world 22 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Their loss man, sex is so much better after a woman gets off a few times.

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 7 months ago

Everything's better when everyone's having fun

[–] blackn1ght@feddit.uk 6 points 7 months ago

Why on earth would they refuse to do it? It's one of the best things to do!

[–] Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I have sadly the opposite problem

[–] steal_your_face@lemmy.ml 15 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Your dick is dry and you do care?

[–] Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Yes. And also for some reason my gf won't let me go down on her.

[–] Duranie@literature.cafe 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

She may have insecurities, unsure of how her body looks or smells, or whether or not she's "normal" down there. Fear of judgement can be a huge mood killer.When I was growing up I was never told there was anything wrong with me, but discussion of bodies was rather taboo. It took MANY years before I was comfortable with myself. Also, if she's ever experienced any trauma, that could make her less comfortable as well.

Are you guys able to have discussions about intimate matters? What turns you on, what kinds of touch, how and where? She may or may not know why she's not comfortable with it, but communication is so important for the health of the relationship. Patience, kindness, and to be supportive and non-judgemental of each other goes far with intimate matters.

[–] Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago

I don't think she has any trauma. She would have told me otherwise. It could be the thing with self esteem but I don't understand she let me do it before then suddenly she just said she does not like even though she seemed to enjoy it before.

[–] sukhmel@programming.dev 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Also, sometimes there are health issues that may escalate after oral sex, e.g. cystitis

[–] Wizard_Pope@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

I dont think it is that

[–] KingThrillgore@lemmy.ml 3 points 7 months ago

Nothing made my exes happier like getting in there and giving them the come here. Great way to get new bed sheets at Christmas time too