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Making friends in adulthood (beehaw.org)
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Is it really harder to find true, meaningful friendships (not romantic and/or sexual) in more 'adult' years or is this an introverts problem? I am quite introverted at first, I would never just start a friendly conversation with a stranger and work friends usually are just work friends. I moved to UK in 2019 and since then I had few different jobs and connected with people from work, but none of them wanted to stay in touch outside work. I was a bit confused, as I thought those people enjoyed my company as much I did theirs. Not even sure if this is maybe a cultural thing? I grew up in Poland and Eastern European people are more direct than British, so you know straight away of they like you or not. What are your experiences? How do you deal with meeting new people?

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[–] AlwaysTheir@lemmy.one 11 points 1 year ago

I'm very extroverted. I have no trouble making new friends that are interested in a hobby or like to meet up at a certain place. In the 24 years since I graduated high school haven't met a new friend who just wants to meet up, hang out, and do whatever because life is more fun with friends. Back in my school days I was pretty bad at making new friends but the friends I did make were legit. I still keep in touch with them and we don't need a plan to have fun.

If anyone has any insights or tips on how to make solid friends as an adult I'd love to hear it.