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Trolling but with kindness? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 years ago by nerdyguy1990@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Hey everyone! So I recently joined a very toxic reddit alternative (not this one) and there's a lot of hate speech on there that makes me want to scream into the void, but anyways. I decided to kind of "troll" people on this platform by asking what their unresolved trauma is and why they have such misdirected hatred toward one group or another. Wish me luck? Do you think we should "troll" more people with kindness?

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[–] picoblaanket@lemmy.ml 6 points 2 years ago (1 children)

It's good to be kind.

But if your intention is to 'troll', can you really help someone?

Say a person answers your question - "my dad was an alcoholic and my mom was a skitzo."

Okay - then what?

Are you gonna offer them months of sincere encouragement?
Do you have an idea for how to heal them?

If not, then it's a pretty shallow 'kindness'.

[–] nerdyguy1990@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I would say it's not their fault, they've had to deal with a lot, but nothing that's happened to them is their fault.

[–] picoblaanket@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

I agree, it's not their fault.

The question I'm asking you is:

If your intention is to ‘troll’, can you really help someone?
Are you gonna offer them months of sincere encouragement?
Do you have an idea for how to heal them?

[–] nerdyguy1990@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

This might be counterintuitive, but breathwork has been known to help deal with trauma and work through trauma. I'd link them to a breathwork video if they were willing. If not, that's fine too.

[–] picoblaanket@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Hey I think that is a great idea. I agree that mental/spiritual freedom is reached through the breath.

That will be a great strategy and you can definitely help people who are ready to try it.

[–] picoblaanket@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago

Also, it's good if you have an urge to help people.

I'm just trying to talk with you about the best way to help someone overcome struggles.