Men's Liberation
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Recommended Reading
- The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, And Love by bell hooks
- Politics of Masculinities: Men in Movements by Michael Messner
Related Communities
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!askmen@lemmy.world
!mensmentalhealth@lemmy.world
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The scholarship thing, and lack of social support for men in general, is still a massive problem IMO. I'm all for lifting those up who need it, but many people, myself included, were too "rich" to get financial aid, too poor to afford anything other than community college (which is great, but it has challenges of its own), and too straight and white and male to quality for 95% of scholarships. I'm very aware I inherently have some level of privilege, and I'm sure there's even more I'm unaware of, but the single greatest contribution to your chance of success in life is the zip code you were born in.
I'm extremely privileged and make more than enough money for a comfortable living, but the road here was very difficult, and it's pretty damn easy to see why young boys are leaning right so hard. I'm left as fuck and id even be considered left wing in Europe, but the left in the US has alienated the fuck out of young men and provides almost 0 role models for them. The constant media messaging and sentiment of men are evil, they need to go die in wars, and #killallmen on social media being celebrated is super damaging. If I didn't end up decently successful and couldn't take a step back and get a top down view of everything I don't know if I'd end up nearly as left as I am.
It's only recently I've seen some sentiment change around this, but it's going to take a long time as all social change does. We really ought to stop telling young boys what to not be and instead SHOW THEM what they should strive to be. This is why people like Andrew Tate get such a cult following. Despite being an absolute dog shit human being, he focuses on uplifting oneself and provides an ideal person who you should strive to be. By comparison that positive male role model who young boys should strive to be is completely absent on the left and leaves many boys, myself included at the time, lost as fuck and surrounded by what they should not be instead of what they should.
There is really easy solution - socially financed education and income based support.
But then how will we get young people to join the military for our unpopular unnecessary wars?
Income based support is something that is being done in Germany and it comes with its own set of problems. Plus in general means testing is often bureaucratic and not actually well equipped to meet individual needs.
Happen to live in Germany so I know that there are problems, like with any real world application but the concept is rather solid - to tie in financial support with financial conditions.
100%
It is a lot easier to see where you’ve struggled than where you are privileged.
But I would like to see more make role models. I didn’t really have many growing up.