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The ADHD urge to write at length in the hopes of being understood exactly by anyone who happens to see what we say or write. This is a highly relatable article.

I understand very clearly that the way I use language doesn't make sense out of context to the majority of others because my mind works differently from the majority of others. This is not to indicate superiority or inferiority (we need to get away from this assumption as a species in my opinion), but to indicate that most people do not have an adhd/asd type mind. My very sense-making approach is fundamentally different in some ways to most people, but this is not to indicate that most people on or off the spectrum use the same sense-making approach. Although I more easily understand the logic used by my spectrum on average, I can definitively say that there are plently of neurotypical people who I can relate to more easily than some neurodivergent people. I have spoken to autistic and adhd Trumpists, for example.

I have come to expect my own short-hand to make sense only to myself and those who are familar to me. To all others, I understand that I must use very specific and clear language to impart what I mean by what I say. At the same time I understand that no matter how I use language, the possibility to be misunderstood exists based on the interpretation of whomever happens to see what I write. Communication is encoding and decoding. We don't all mean the same things by the words we use. It doesn't shock me when people don't understand me at first because I expect that. My line is whether the person I'm speaking to has any interest in understanding or clarity as many do not. I am able to entertain a good faith conversation with anyone. However, when it becomes clear that the person I'm speaking to is arguing in bad faith or is using me as a sounding board to reflect their own baseless bullshit, that's what upsets me.

The reason I'm not succinct is that I understand I can't be in many cases because of the intellectual diversity of humans by nature and nurture.