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Hey!

I am marrying my girlfriend in june and I invited a few friends of mine to my wedding.

My partner (female) has about 6 close friends and we wanted to stay around 50 people with family and friends for our wedding.

The problem I have is that I had to cut out a few people that I know but have nothing to do with since a few years. I feel kind of bad, because 2 girls in my friend circle are close with my best friends and I like them as friends to talk to but personally I wouldn't have anything to do with them without my friends.

It's a weird situation, but I didn't invite them because my partner and I wanted to keep it at the limit of 50 people with family and friends.

I feel bad. Today I was at a party and I couldn't talk about the wedding because 7 friends that were invited were there and the other two who werent invited would be left out so I avoided it and was happy nobody talked about the wedding invitations. I think the other two know they aren't invited even though I enjoy talking with them when we go out...

I hate weddings...

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[–] capt_wolf@lemmy.world 52 points 9 months ago (1 children)

If you don't talk to them, don't feel bad about not inviting them. It's a major life event, not just any old party. If anyone questions it, you tell them you're keeping it to close friends and family only. Other than that, it's nobody's business who you invite.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 8 months ago

If anyone questions it

This is the best case. The more likely thing is that nobody will question it but instead will let it fester unspoken.

It’s great to have a plan to handle when someone brings it up, but that’s the easier scenario to handle.