Not really specific to that age but communication is the most important thing in any relationship. If you have any problems with anything your partner does or doesn't do talk about it, do not let it fester and grow on the inside until it all bursts out and becomes a much bigger thing than solving that small (or even big) initial problem together would have been. And that means direct communication, no subtle hints or expectations of mind reading.

[–] dont_lemmee_down@lemm.ee 8 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Also don't take it personal! If they tell you something it's not against you but for the relationship. And try expressing stuff in sentences like "I feel that you don't do the dishes enough" instead of "you never do the dishes". Remember that they might percive the world differently and the real facts sound way more open to discussion if you just express your view instead of claiming absolutes!

[–] taladar@sh.itjust.works 8 points 9 months ago

They might also prioritize different things. This is often called "Love languages". Some might value gifts highly while others don't care much for them, others need quality time together without friends while some are perfectly fine spending most of your time together in a group setting,...

This might account for differences in perceived effort by both partners.