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If you are partners that is silly. There is no need to ask for permission for everything as if the other is some random person. You both know each other etc. and should you not like it, can speak up. Everything else would be really odd in a partnership.
If they are partners they should be collaborating to set the standards they find reasonable/comfortable and beyond that it's nobody else's business.
Hey man, if they want their partner to check with them, you have no right to tell them they don't have a right to it. I personally would have a massive problem with my wife just taking my cock in her mouth without asking. I'm intact, and if it's before my shower or after a long day there is probably smegma under my foreskin. I do NOT want the woman I love to be getting that in her mouth. It's disgusting and makes me feel gross.
literally besides the point and also the opposite of the original scenario
Literally not and literally isn't.
literally wrong
Literally not.
literally yes
Might not be a need for it but it definitely gets some folks hot and bothered when you're pushing on the boundaries of what you both know you're comfortable with, plus if it doesn't work, having asked permission first tends to just lead to a bit of giggling before shifting to something else instead of it being a total mood killer.
For my money, "would you mind awfully if I administered a spot of cunnilingus" is the bigger mood killer.
(The money phrase is just rhetoric, I'd never pay for it... again)
How does this person’s sex life affect you in any way, and which part of their comment was asking for your condescending opinion?
Whoever is downvoting you for this are short-sighted and selfish idiots. You're 100% correct: the rules two adults consent to are none of anyone's business but those adults, and everyone has a right to set their own boundaries.
Right, but if you bring it up in a discussion forum, expect people to discuss it.
Discussion is fine, telling someone their boundaries are "silly" because you personally don't agree with them is not. It's condescending, rude, presumptive, and judgemental.
But these are things you're clearly okay with so you do you boo 🤡
They can do whatever they want. Expecting others to do it too is the silly thing. Partners know each other super well. Not knowing or even ignoring boundaries would be the issue there. Not them being unknown.
I'm not sure exactly what you're trying to say, but everyone should respect their partner's set boundaries. Respect is part of love so everyone should want to do that for their partner anyway, but respecting someone's set boundaries no matter who they are is not up for discussion. "No" means "no".
These rules can be and are different for everyone. The only rule that applies to everyone is that everyone gets to set these rules for themselves. I hope that clears things up.
I am saying that partners should know each other. That there is no need to discuss basic things every time. I don't need to ask my partner if I should add X while cooking - I know they like it, so I do (or don't of they don't).
So why are you arguing as though we're saying different things? Your partner says they don't like something, that's a boundary they set, respect it and don't do the thing they don't like.
You placed judgement upon someone else's boundary, in someone else's relationship, when nobody asked, which isn't cool. It's not your place to judge boundaries in anyone else's relationship, you only get to say whether or not it's a boundary for you, in yours. All I'm saying here is:
Sorry, what? Where did I say such things?
"Ur dum" isn't a discussion