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For me I have found that a good friendship is having a deep intellectual and emotional connection with someone. However there is no attraction involved, no jealousy, nothing. The one time I had feelings for someone (which I realised after 2.5 years working with them) I found that I just liked everything about them: their smile, voice, how they talked, etc. This was the first time I even felt a little jealousy. And I also yearned for a deeper emotional and intellectual connection. This person wasn't even a close friend. So friendship and love has some overlap for me, but are different.
It's descriptions like that that make me wonder if I'm aromantic in some fashion, because I don't have anything like that.
For me that experience made me realise that I can get romantic feelings but very rarely (it's happened only once).