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I feel lost in life (depression?) (all over the place) (lemmy.fmhy.ml)

submitted 1 year ago by QuietStorm@lemmy.fmhy.ml to c/chat@beehaw.org

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Im still young but i just feel so lost/useless/or like a loser and im not sure what to do now or int he future. i have so many ideas but i just cant do most of them becasue im depressed or i struggle (i have autism and dsleyixa). ive always been treate dlike the odd one out and ive never had irl friends that are actually friendly, i just feel so alone and i hate that i want to change or dream but i feel lost.

I also want many thing like money, fun, a good life and whatnot but im just not too sure. i take meds but i feel like something is missing and im not sure what that could be. i also want thing sinstantly and that anoyes me and im not sure what to do about it.

you have any tips or advice by chance? i could have rante dmore but i wanted to stop.

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[–] random_character_a@lemmy.one 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I can't keep myself as an reference point, since I'm bit abnormal, so I might be wrong, but here are my two sents.

From people around me, I've noticed a commond factor that causes them anxiety.

Western culture keeps feeding us the idea that a good person is someone who is smart, hard working, successful, wealthy, beautiful and uses his potential to the fullest. We keep feeding this to our children from early on and it really seems to be stuck on peoples heads.

This manifests in various ways. People just don't let themselves be what they are and torture themselves constantly for not being enough. People stay in a job they hate, because the pay is good and they have taken a large debt, because they need to have successful peoples stuff. People trade in their family life for work, so they could be respected by people that would sell their grandmothers in a second. etc...

If more people would just shake off this shit, mix a little "carpe diem" with "don't give a shit" and focus on people who don't demand anything from them, maybe they would be happier.

[–] Sushi@kbin.social 3 points 1 year ago

"The opposite of courage isn't cowardice; it's conformity."