So I'm past 30yo and today I tried to get back into dating. I've joined a discord and most of them are around the age of 20. It feels alien too me to have so many short (1 to 5 words) sentences followed by cat gifs. Not sure if I can do this. I need deeper meaning and longer sentences. :(

[–] jet@hackertalks.com 6 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Your username is "send me nude girls" , and you're talking about socializing for dating purposes on discord. You might be approaching this on hard mode.

Might I suggest going out in person? Meetups, bars, shared activities, heck even tinder.

[–] Send_me_nude_girls@feddit.de 3 points 10 months ago

My username is more of a joke than anything. I get the first impression vibes though.

You're right about finding outside activities, I need something to build my self worth.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I'd recommend you filter by age, and don't date anyone younger than 25 if you are actually looking for a relationship.

[–] Send_me_nude_girls@feddit.de 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

25 is already stretching it. I have a good 25 years old friend and he's often talking in Twitch emoji language. No fucking joke.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 2 points 10 months ago

Agreed. Well at least you are not walking blindly into this

[–] dingus@lemmy.world 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Discord is tricky because most of it is filled with teens. If you specifically search for 21+, 25+, 30+, etc. communities, you'll have a much saner time in my experience. They do exist out there, but I don't know how many are dating focused.

[–] Send_me_nude_girls@feddit.de 4 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I'm not mentally ready for over30 parties (but I agree)

[–] dingus@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

That's fair. I feel like mostly I specifically find 18+ and 21+ communities anyway. Since I don't want teens, 21+ is what I tend to shoot for and there are still a fair amount of them.

Although I've stumbled into 25+ servers before. These are the most preferable to me because by that point most people are out of school so they are more relatable.

[–] Blaze@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Introvert too, still managed to get a girlfriend. There is hope

[–] Send_me_nude_girls@feddit.de 1 points 10 months ago

Thanks bro, I needed this.

[–] Blaze@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Good luck, it's always tough to date past 20s

[–] Send_me_nude_girls@feddit.de 5 points 10 months ago

I'm an introvert. I'm basically fucked