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Has anyone here stopped drinking? (beehaw.org)

submitted 1 year ago by neamhsplach@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org

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I stopped drinking on the 18th of March 2023. Because of where I live and how my culture socialises, this was a huge step. But to be honest, in hindsight it was just something I'd been putting off for a long time. The hangovers did just become a nightmare to deal with, plus I didn't feel like I was doing well with my personal relationships because of it. I'm glad to have all that time back, although I miss part of the social aspect. I'm working on creating a sober social life but it's very early days.

How has your sobriety journey been for you?

I absolutely loved using r/stopdrinking as a resource. Now that I'm not on reddit so much I'd love to find a new community here! Has anyone created a sobriety community on the fediverse yet?

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[–] Dee_Imaginarium@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I stopped drinking but not by choice. I got a medical diagnosis that meant I go to the hospital if I drink and possibly get some intestines removed.

Sucks because I liked craft beer and didn't even drink a lot. Maybe a beer after work and a few on weekends.

One good thing though is that at least my waistline is pretty great without all those extra calories. My liver is probably pretty happy too.

[–] neamhsplach@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sorry to hear about your health troubles.

The weight thing is mad isn't it? It's been quite easy to keep weight off. Although I think I've upped my sugar intake to make up for it!

[–] Dee_Imaginarium@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Thanks friend, the diagnosis was several years ago at this point so it's been a while and I've had my grieving time. Things are better now and it definitely gets easier with time, but the first year or so was rough for me ngl. The health improvements helped though like the weight but I also just feel overall more alert and aware than before I stopped drinking.

I don't go to the same social situations I used to either, going to a bar with some friends is not really a great time for me now. Being the designated driver was fun for a few months but I get tired of being sober around a bunch of drunk people. So that aspect is difficult as well, but you find different hobbies and activities and with that different friends. Doesn't mean you have to say goodbye to the old friends, but if all they like to do is drink then it will get harder to spend time together. Many of the friends from before I had to stop drinking are now just distant acquaintances on my social media friends list. So that's a reality I'd say to just be ready for and try not to let it get you down. That's life and sometimes life takes us in different directions. Do what's best for you.

Happy to hear that you're finding good resources online though! Wishing you the best with your journey!