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I think what I've learned from most of your examples is that people just don't like apologies.
People like the benefits of apologizing but don't want to pay the ego tax. It's one of the singlemost powerful social rituals we have as a species but you wouldn't know it based on how tightfisted so many apologies get.
Sure, but I think you misinterpreted my comment. Most of these examples feel completely irrelevant to whether an apology is good or not, and are perfectly fine in the majority of apologies which are not given in a shithead way.
That's cool. At the end of the day I'm just generalizing my own lived experience and to tell you the truth I am not a particularly wise person. Normally I wouldn't lecture on about this sort of thing at all -- it just so happened to be topical today.