Jk! Lol idk what I'm doing, I'm the new girl(I haven't been one that long) but general convo if anyone is interested?
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Fucking same!
Yes, it is! I wrestled with that realization for a while, I think I've more or less accepted it, but not sure what to do about it.
I'm conflicted on hormones. On one hand, yeah it would help a ton of things, but that's a huge step.
For me, I figure it'll decide once and for all whether it's right for me, if it turns out it isn't then I can just stop them. Everything feels like a huge step to me ATM, and feeling like a man in a dress is a problem for me. I wish I had the confidence some trans women have but I just don't, I need to at least vaguely pass before I'll feel cool socially transitioning
That is a great way to think about it, I think I was making a similar realization recently.
On the rest of it, are you me? I've said basically all of that before, some it in those same words! 🤣
All I can think if slowly make ambiguous changes til I feel I can attempt to pass. An example would be to grow my hair out but deal with it differently depending where I'm at til at some point it could be long enough to do something clearly fem with it. My dad grew his out looking like an old hippie in retirement, so I could pass it off like that at first.
Yess that's the plan, got some finasteride for the balding so I can grow it out nice and long. GP just refused to prescribe me 5mg dose though :( yay transphobia
Sam's club has generic minoxidil that can be delivered for $20/6 month supply. That's what I'm trying atm. I think it was like $50 for the membership though. Meds are insanely cheap there though, so that alone feels like it makes up for it. I just got a derma roller to try out some microneedling too. I've only done it once but it's a bizarre feeling.
Ah the finasteride I've got is working, on a 1mg dosage because of hair loss, suddenly it's for trans issues and they're all fucking hesitant. Gonna speak to my therapist and see what they recommend, might just end up getting the lot privately anyway. Don't think Sam's club operates in the UK, thanks anyway though!
I was a little confused for a second, but oh shit I think I got it now. I double checked my insurance and it's a no on gender anything, so I guess it'd be the same.
I do know of several affirming care places near me, but I'm not brave enough to look into it too much yet.
You got this girl! Theres no rush and you can take all the time you need, but when you feel ready you can go down there and be the girl you were born to be!